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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Nice Guys and Love, what's your take on the issue |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2010, 9:01 pm
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| Romantic excitement is based in large part on uncertainty, which in turn is based in large part on unpredictability; with a new lover you don't yet know what to expect, you can't predict what they'll do, and that's part of the rush for most people. Non-coincidentally, bad boys/girls are unpredictabl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complimenting a girl |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2010, 8:41 pm
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Replies: 48
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| If you give the "wrong" compliment, or say it in the "wrong" way, suddenly the recipient is very unhappy. As an Aspie man, you're thinking logically, which leads to the perfectly rational conclusion that complimenting=doom. So naturally you feel reluctant. Try to make a compliment fast and casual; i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: can you be late for something? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2010, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 35
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Dots wrote: I panic when I'm late for anything. I'm always the first one there. It frustrates me when people don't seem to take being on time seriously, and no one seems to take it as seriously as I do - I can't even be 5 minutes late. Is anyone else like this?
I am, 100%. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you hate injustice? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2010, 12:37 am
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Replies: 61
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TheDoctor82 wrote: Study the 48 Laws of Power. Don't actually follow them, but remind yourself that they do; once you learn them, you'll know how you can use what idiocies they follow to your advantage 
On your recommendation, I looked it up; it's GREAT stuff, it explains so much!! Thanks!!  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you hate injustice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2010, 9:11 pm
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Replies: 61
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| I'm with you on this. Sadly, I expect that sort of behavior as the standard, and many other behaviors that are objectively dreadful as well. The NT's have huge blind spots about certain sorts of social evil. It drives me crazy. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you hate injustice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2010, 8:54 pm
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| I find that injustice is one of the things that I find hardest to accept. Both social injustice in the world and petty injustice in my own life. And by hard to accept, I mean that I can't get over it, it just gnaws at me. And it makes me angry that people are generally so indifferent to it. That's ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fake people NT's think are nice! |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2010, 8:30 pm
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| This sounds to me like he needs to feel like he's the "leader," and thus will target whoever he sees as the competition. Does he do this to everyone equally or is it mostly just you? If the latter, be very afraid; it's almost certain that you have been singled out for a social attack. His next move,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: is being both stubborn and quarrelsome a trait? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2010, 7:52 pm
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| someone told me i look attractive, but i would only get 3/10 because my attitude of stubborness and quarrelsomeness takes away 7 from 10. does this make you really unattractive even though you're pretty? no wonder why i've never had a boyfriend before of any kind. A person who'd say such an ugly th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abnormal signature |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2010, 8:56 pm
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Replies: 23
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| (I mean the one you sign checks with, not your sig line. :lol: ) Signatures are accepted as validly legally binding in part because they're unique and distinctive. Even when a person's cursive writing still looks nice and regular enough to be a text font, their signature will be some wild scrawl the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you look autistic/weird to other people? |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2010, 4:59 pm
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| I walked around the whole border without falling off , while humming happy songs. :D I'm 50 and still like to ride shopping carts across the parking lot. I'm 44 and I do both of these things... actually, I prefer someone to push me on the cart (my husband is willing to do it, bless him). I rock whe... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Listening to music over and over |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2010, 4:40 pm
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Replies: 60
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| Hi there. I was curious if anyone else finds themselves listening to the same music over and over again. I've been listening to the same song for about 12-13 hours straight today. No joke. Ok fine, I took a couple small breaks to get food and such but no longer than 30 minutes combined. I'm assumin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Topics of Interested |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2010, 4:02 pm
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Replies: 23
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| Are there aspies out there who have many topic of interests? Is it uncommon for someone with aspergers to have no real in depth information about their topic of information. There are lots of things I'm interested in, but only up to a certain level. For example, I love science, watch science shows,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Maintaining "The Pose". |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2010, 3:06 am
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| LOL!! I prefer to socialize over the phone, so that I can keep working on my computer with the occasional "uh-huh" until they run out of updates on their aunt's allergies and their neighbor's dog's flu and I can say something about MY life or some more interesting topic. You're right, they're so sur... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stims - what's wrong with it? |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2010, 6:14 pm
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I'm usually twiddling or twirling something unless my hands are fully occupied, and I rock to calm down (although not in front of people). I'm a very tense person, and if I couldn't dissipate stress with these behaviors I'd lose my mind.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: depth perception |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2010, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 16
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| I have horrible depth perception, which made things like parking or even changing lanes a nightmare; I haven't driven in years. I remember once being stopped at a light such that there was the exit out of a parking lot directly in front of me. A car came to the exit, and it looked to me as if he dro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dislike of the color yellow |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2010, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 70
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| I've always hated yellow. My mother did my room yellow, although I begged her to use any other color, for my entire childhood. Her excuse for that now is that when she showed someone my room they always said how bright and sunny it was. I pointed out that that does NOT mean they liked or were impres... |
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