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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Books to show Autistics how to stand up for themselves |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2021, 9:16 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,422
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| In terms of general social assertiveness, I totally agree on the usefulness of such. Certain situations call for specific learnings and response, about which I've very recently been learning more. Is there someone among friends/family who makes you feel like you have to be permanently walking on egg... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Relationship with someone who has a different condition |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2020, 6:49 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 858
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I can relate to a lot of this.
I'm just waking up to BPD traits in my wife after 8 years marriage. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and abnormal sexual interests |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2020, 8:21 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 622
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| You're not alone, and I've been reflecting on these matters for quite a while. One relevant factor is the well-noted trend where autistics will tend to work out what works for them in life, while having a reduced tendency to pick up and conform to the expectations of the majority. Sometimes I think ... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Why isn't there a Wrong Planet iOS app? |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2020, 11:59 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,976
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Because those of us with Android got in line first?
Just kidding |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help! My son will not stop ruining his clothes by Chewing!! |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2020, 7:09 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,263
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| Other posters have linked the behavior to anxiety, and I agree with that. It's a stim, in all likelihood - it's like a messenger, and the underlying message is that they find this means of self-support to be necessary in the presence of emotional or sensory duress. It may be good to redirect the sup... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Non-Verbal Autistic boy survives sub-zero temperatures |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2020, 5:54 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 835
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| I was watching this on the local news, and beginning to fear the worst after the duration started to drag out. I'm super relieved he's okay! The coverage was a little sensationalist and zookeeper-ish, but overall about as good as we get from mainstream media. One major news outlet quoted aussie ND a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is It Easier For An Autistic Person To Identify Another? |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2020, 9:47 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,554
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| Yes, there's a feeling that's more likely to be right than not. Verifying it in an acceptable manner might be a bit more problematic. Many have thought or asserted this while having to accept that it's difficult to prove. Now, there's some new thinking coming out from an autistic researcher that hel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Got diagnosed with ASD, mother wont talk too me. |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2020, 4:16 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 806
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| Sometimes the prevailing stigma has a big impact, it sounds to me like you are experiencing this now. Your mum is probably carrying around a lot of ideas that will turn out be wrong, upon learning and reflection, assuming she gets that far. First build up your own confidence and self-understanding. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger's Funeral |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2020, 4:56 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 635
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| A funeral is really for the people who are left. The person in the box at the front probably doesn't care much, except for whatever advance wishes they have. Personally, I plan to be cremated or composted. My version of an ideal aspie funeral, then, is an urn on a table and a few close friends holdi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problems with change: Cognitive vs. Medical |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2020, 8:42 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 503
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| I've been reflecting on this. My resistance/dislike isn't extreme, but is present. I think I experience problems, especially forgetting things or sensory sensitivity associated with anxiety, when one of the following happen: - plans change unexpectedly - an unusual (not routine) activity happens - s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why's he keep saying him and i should talk more? |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 574
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| Some good guidance says we should recognize the harmful ones in our circle of friends and family, the ones who don't get us, and we should not feel obliged to keep them close, but rather seek out the ones who do get us. This guy sounds like he may belong to the latter group. I can tell you, though t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Semi-controlled partial meltdowns? |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2020, 7:04 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 424
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| I used to have meltdowns, and social consequences. Those episodes never stopped happening, but I learned to turn them inwards, an experience I've seen many autistics describe as a shutdown. Your account seems wholly consistent with one of those. This probably seems like old news, especially given yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Disabled or different..??? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2020, 6:59 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 2,003
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| I think the psychiatrist's / medical model / disability view of autism is sometimes useful but wholly insufficient for addressing the social wrongs done to people on the spectrum. Each person's expression of various traits falls into a continuum, on one end of which is pathology (eg seizures) and on... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Residential Treatment Facilities |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2020, 8:40 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,220
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| I am writing this post to try and offer what understanding I can, then follow that up with some observations, questions and a suggestion, which I hope may be of help. Background I'm sorry things came to a pass where you find a need for this course of action. I'll decline to judge your desire to find... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: (need help asap) Am i just being a hypochondriac? |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2020, 7:53 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 634
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| Good on you for reaching out. There are multiple online tests designed to give you an indication whether investigating further with a professional would be helpful. To anyone with any questions in this vein, I'd strongly encourage them to take those tests and use them as designed, i.e. inquire furth... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Judgement for sensory issues. |
| TimS1980 |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2020, 5:52 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 278
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"I can assure you I don't research things half-way"
The force is strong with this one. |
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