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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: This is what I think Empathy is... |
| Greentea |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 6:30 pm
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Replies: 32
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| I was an abused child, while my siblings were very loved and cherished. Nowadays, my parents are old and totally alone and disabled, and my siblings have abandoned them. I should abandon them even more, given that they ruined my life. However, the pain I feel in my body and soul knowing them alone a... |
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Forum: Español, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français Topic: IVRIT? Hebrew anyone? |
| Greentea |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 10,054
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| שלום לכולם...האם יש עם מי לדבר כאן? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and addictions |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 5:02 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,463
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| sinsboldly, thanks. Well said, I know all about vacillating between fighting to keep a job and fighting to find a new one after losing the battle. I have such an unstable job history that nowadays I need to lie through my teeth about my resume, otherwise I'd be totally unemployable. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and addictions |
| Greentea |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 2:15 pm
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Replies: 14
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| I can relate to all of you, because I only heard about AS last year, at age 44, after having tried everything and gotten no results. I was brought up abusively too, and severely punished and blamed for my symptoms. My family refuse to believe that I have a problem, and to this day they all blame me ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you as NTs see you? |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 1:56 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,174
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| Sorry, I didn't express myself clearly. What I mean is: is your opinion of what you are like based on what family/friends/others have told you that you are like? I ask because in my case I've learnt that what NTs say about me (including therapists) is too shallow and full of wrong assumptions for me... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why do they care? |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 1:44 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,901
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| The answer is simple: it's not that you have to reassure people as in a rule of politeness. It's that flattery gets you a very, very long way in life, so if you don't flatter (them or anyone else), people don't like you because they think you're someone who won't get far in life, a loser. We live in... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "You're not normal" rant |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 12:26 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 4,601
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: AS Identity? |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 4:16 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 3,033
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| I used to think I had a personality, but since being on WP I've found that all the things I thought made me the unique person I am are actually AS symptoms ! !! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "You're not normal" rant |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2007, 4:10 am
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Replies: 45
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| Maybe due to AS my values are upside-down, but for me it's a million times worse to discredit a father in front of their common daughter than to take things literally. There seems to be a problem with respecting you in your wife. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problem solving |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2007, 1:18 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,214
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| Yes, I always ask for the avice of an NT to solve my problems. My own solutions never work because of the same reasons you cite. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you as NTs see you? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2007, 3:55 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,174
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| Is your opinion of yourself influenced by what NTs have said about you (therapists, diagnosers, family, friends, employers)? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: An epiphany |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2007, 3:53 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,894
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| If I were you, I'd write a report on the teacher's personality and mail it to her. "Too NT and shallow, will never be different from the herd or unique in any way, a mixture of little teacher and little old lady, has the strange belief that she's apt to describe others objectively, etc." I think it'... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Who is the oldest person here? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2007, 3:28 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,147
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| In my country, AS is a condition only kids have. Forums, diagnoses, social security assistance, it's all for parents of aspie kids. We don't exist for the health system. Or maybe they think we shouldn't exist. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Chronically Unemployed Aspies... |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2007, 6:35 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 8,885
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| I wish I had the excuse of being a housewife and someone to support the home. I'm often fired and having no income and seen as an unstable person in social circles. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Angry responses from NTs |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2007, 5:26 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 3,191
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| Especially when it comes to the things that motivate most people like materialism or to improve their standing in an imaginary ranking system such as the "social pecking order" or just competition in general. Yes, that's what I mean too. And more complex social conventions, such as NTs getting angr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Angry responses from NTs |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2007, 4:40 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 3,191
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| NTs do this to each other too, but they expect each other to guess what's bothering them because they know other NTs are able to guess. Aspies aren't. And I think that the ability to guess is largely connected to NTs being similar in values and therefore being able to imagine what the other is feeli... |
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