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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 3:38 pm
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| Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding you. You actually understand me perfectly. :) That's the challenge, isn't it? We can copy, we can act, we can mimic, but to what end? It makes those around us feel better. How does it make us feel? Shouldn't there be certain people that we don't have to perform for... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 3:00 pm
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| You can copy and practice expected behaviours... but can you feel them? I don't know how to answer that. How do you "feel" a behavior? And aren't we trying to get our AS kids to copy and practice behaviors to "learn" how to interact with the NT world? Are we expecting them (kids with AS) to learn t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 2:43 pm
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| There is also the results when you succeed that aren't exactly encouraging aspies to keep trying. It's difficult to reach out and make that gesture - it is not comfortable - but then the response, even when positive, is even less comfortable. What do I do with this returned gesture? It's positive, ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 2:24 pm
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| You put a lot of love and effort into that cat - and yes that's a gesture of affection that is admirable - but it's a stuffed cat. How many little boys, AS or NT, are going to jump up and hug and twirl and laugh over a stuffed cat ? I also agree that he was probably telling you what you should make... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 2:18 pm
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| Your expectations are way too high for your son. He does not understand these types of gestures due to his being on the spectrum. You simply have to teach him manners, exactly what to say when someone gives him something and he'll have to fake it. I do this with my son. Many times his grandmother a... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2008, 1:58 pm
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| Thanks, everyone, for all those responses. I think I see where I went wrong here. I will take all your suggestions/comments into consideration. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 11:28 pm
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| Here's my take on this. Maybe he thought that you were asking him which animal he wanted to see added to your collection, not made for him. When he asked for a crocheted copy of the family cat, he probably thought it would sit on the shelf for him to admire (like the rest of the animals). So when y... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 9:33 pm
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| Well. I am so happy for you for making something for your little one. The connection thing that you comment on is or could be very hurtful at times but give him sometime to really pay attention to it. Place the cat in his room at nap time and see what he does. Or take a picture of him holding it an... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 9:26 pm
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| It is important that you tell him its his. Though if he's sometimes been told things are his, like say a pack of cookies, and then been told he needs to share that pack of cookies, he'll always have some doubt as to whether or not the item truly is his, which will make him somewhat reluctant to be ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feeling lack of "connection" |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 7:26 pm
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| I recently picked my crochet hooks back up again after a long hiatus, and quickly made several whimsical stuffed animals/creatures. I asked my son (who'd said he loved my critters) if he'd like me to make anything special for him, and he said he'd like me to make a copy of our black cat, which he lo... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Lying and stealing... |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 3:49 pm
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| Our son may eat as much "Real Food" (not snacks) as he wants at mealtimes. But he just eats what little he has to to get to the treat at the end. ;) :evil: But I don't want to feel like I'm forcing him to eat more than he says he wants. I'd rather he eat several smaller meals than two or three huge ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Lying and stealing... |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 3:19 pm
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| My son is prone to wanting the "same" everything and not realize he is growing. Or he thinks eating a meal is a chore to get dessert. :twisted: This is what our son does, too. He will request/demand the same thing (e.g., a sandwich, or canned ravioli, or a hot dog with ketchup, or a veggie bean and... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Lying and stealing... |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 1:40 pm
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| My son does this too, to an extent. If I have any of his favorite snacks in the house (chips, ice cream, orange bars, GoGurt), he will devour the whole thing in a day or two. So then I just stopped buying them altogether, telling him he'd had many chances not to steal food, and his dad and I tried k... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: like the first time every time |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2008, 10:40 am
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| My son is autistic and sometimes I think it's because his speech issues interferes with his comprehension and sometimes I think he is completely checked out. lights on, no one's home. not in the way that he's not smart but that is just not present. He's in SuperMarioland or a Gene Kelly movie. Yep,... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: like the first time every time |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2008, 10:35 pm
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This happens to us all the time. It drives us insane. We can't decide how much is the AS, and how much is just him being a very bright, potentially manipulative nine-year-old who just wants to postpone doing something he doesn't want to do by feigning ignorance.    |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: It's the things parents of NT kids take for granted |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2008, 8:44 pm
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| I'm just wondering but for those of you who have this shoe problem, when you do find a shoe that your child can tolerate why don't you also buy it in the next 2 sizes. Then when he grows out of it, you have the exact same shoe one size bigger Because I didn't think of it until a week ago. Sorry, ca... |
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