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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2018, 5:47 pm
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Replies: 81
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| Thanks, Folks. OK, I will take it easy on the "tough love" and see how it goes. To give all of you a bigger picture, he really looks forward to coming to meetings, and so I don't see any avoidance here. In fact he seems to enjoy taking advantage of situations. For instance, last year we h... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2018, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 81
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| Sorry for short reply, in the middle of getting children to sleep. Have you heard of PDA? Manipulation often comes up as a description of behaviour. In pda though, in my experience, the manipulation and desperate need to control the environment is anxiety driven. http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Aspie kid/stepkid relationship building |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2018, 3:52 pm
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| I don't have a blended family or more than one child, so my advice may not be too terrific, but I did not want you to feel ignored. From what you posted, it sounds like both children got along fine when not sharing a living space, so what I would do is try to make sure they both are able to have lot... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2018, 3:17 pm
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| Besides being self-serving, I have observed what I see as true manipulation. I mentioned to his therapist that he was manipulative and the answer was "Oh, yes!", so I guess it's not just me. For instance, the 1st campout he could have attended he did not go to because there would be pocke... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2018, 12:09 pm
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| When you say he comes up with "manipulative" excuses do you mean self-serving or persuasive or do you mean actually manipulative? Kids with autism do not usually have a whole lot of aptitude with manipulation because they tend to not to see things from the neurotypical point of view. It is... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting in siblings face (literally) |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2018, 2:32 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Can the older child tell when his sibling is upset when he does that? Would it bother him if someone did that to him? If so, would a demonstration on him be feasible? The only thing I can guess as to why he does it it is because the sibling is so small, that he does not feel close to him unless they... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Need help teaching my son to read! |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2018, 8:01 am
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Replies: 7
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| I am assuming that when he was unwilling to try to read that no one was able to test him for a reading disability. Although some kids with autism are hyperlexic and don't really need much if any phonics, some kids with autism also have reading disabilities. If he is dyslexic or something like that, ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Conversation |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 11:16 am
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Replies: 22
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| My Mum uses a teddy bear for this. She teaches communication and philosophy to non-autistic adults. Only the person holding the bear is allowed to speak, and then the bear gets passed on. It's really effective because everyone knows they will get to have their say. It also makes it easier to correc... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 7:55 am
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Replies: 20
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| [q I guess it's a matter of "the grass is always greener on the other side." I have seen the opposite of what you describe. I've seen MBAs complaining about they should've gone onto a technical track instead. I've seen people switching from client-facing roles to technical roles as well. ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help Child thinks School work is Optional |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 3:36 pm
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Replies: 47
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| I think you are right about that and I also think for a lot of NTs it is not unpleasant b/c while they have little power, they figure out a way to navigate the system to make it more tolerable. In addition I think a lot of people think the trade off of no power for no "real person" respon... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 9:47 am
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Replies: 20
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| I do worry about the future for both my sons. We are living in a very social world and I do feel the problems my sons experience with social interaction (either through autism or mental illness) will affect their life chances and increase their vulnerability. However, it is also important that they... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help Child thinks School work is Optional |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 5:42 pm
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Replies: 47
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| Kids are not for everyone and people who try to cajole people into having kids they don't want are incredibly annoying and short-sighted. I know this is a problem you have and honestly you have more patience than I did for it when I had to listen to that nonsense. (I have a son, now but at the time... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help Child thinks School work is Optional |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 11:04 am
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Replies: 47
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| Could your parents have been on the spectrum as well? I doubt it. Back then, they were too focused on making me fit in with society, which isn't a spectrum trait. And today, they're elderly. Which means that age-related changes in the brain probably overshadow any traces of the spectrum, if any at ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 10:55 am
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Replies: 20
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| That new info was helpful. I would have a talk with him and see what he would like to accomplish and then help him find resources -- whether it is some online coursework or what have you. The important thing is to make sure you get buy in from him on whatever it is. You can do the research ahead of ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help Child thinks School work is Optional |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2017, 8:26 am
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Replies: 47
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| Aspie1, I don't think your experience is the norm, though I could be wrong. I never got in trouble in school or from my parents for getting things wrong on my homework. Of course, I took my grades more seriously than they did b/c I think (but don't know b/c he, himself, never told me) that my dad h... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2017, 8:10 am
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Replies: 20
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| Why did he initially stop attending school? Did he show signs of social or other issues prior to then, and if so, what? This might give some additional information that can help us. It is not uncommon for someone with ASD to completely disengage after years if trying to fake it -- especially if ther... |
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