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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: understanding the NT mind |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I'm not saying that he has a well-thought out plan to seduce and marry you. Guys often find their female friends attractive in one way or another and sometimes they get a little confused. I think this is often completely unconscious on their part. Some women won't be friends with hetero guys at all ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Okay, what do you guys think? |
| VAGraduateStudent |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 12:35 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 935
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| I'm sorry but the beard thing really cracked me up. But maybe beard significance is different in the Netherlands than the US. O_o It really sounds to me like you did everything right. The way you communicated is, in my opinion, the ideal aspie to NT method of communication: You said that X and Y con... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What's it like working in an autism school? |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,344
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| I'm NT and have many aspie friends and family. I'm researching the sociology of autism, but it's from what I guess is a "critical advocacy" standpoint. Meaning that I second guess things a lot when I'm considering them. For example, does "deficiency" actually mean "difference" and maybe things we th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't understand. Thoughts? |
| VAGraduateStudent |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 12:02 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,085
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| PP has a good point about the "spark" thing. I wouldn't go so far as to say that men aren't hung up on that too, though. You'll probably never know what turned this particular girl off. But seriously, don't beat yourself up that it didn't work out. I think you're supposed to go out on something like... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: How are you treated in the workplace |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2014, 5:31 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 14,748
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| Most of my past bosses acted like the only purpose I was put on this planet was to bully, harass, and to suffer intentionally invoked emotional distress. How do we tell the bosses of the working world that we Aspies are not their cathartic punching bags? Because bosses are human, and human beings l... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Are you kept away from clients? |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2014, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 4
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| I used to work in middle management in an IT company. The company is American, but has lot of Indian employees. The Indians who could not sound or act "White" were not promoted to management and were discouraged from dealing directly with clients. Even if some of these same people were better at exp... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Total Fail |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2014, 4:47 pm
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Replies: 8
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| That's just how most women communicate. You must have done something wrong and she's not going to tell you what it was because she thinks if you don't already know it means you're a bad person or insensitive. It's nutso logic. I'm NT and I have a lot of family and friends on the autism spectrum. A N... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: understanding the NT mind |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2014, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Sounds to me like he's into you. A lot of times NT dudes will start acting "womanly" in their behavior and communication when they have a crush on a girl. It's natural for them because they are unconsciously trying to communicate in a way they think a woman will understand and appreciate. It's reall... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Have your traits "backslid" as you've gotten older |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2014, 4:02 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,854
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| I definitely feel like my social skills have backslid over the years, as well as my ability to successfully use coping situations to manage my aspie overstimulations. I'm only 34 and I feel like I peaked at my functioning around 6-8 years ago and its been a slow decline since then. As a tradeoff, I... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Is this synesthesia |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Synesthesia basically happens when an individual's meaning of something is not expressed by other people, so there isn't a complete way of describing the meaning. For example, a tree is a tree because we all agree it's a tree. The way I might imagine a tree or describe it would be very similar to mo... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Body dysmorphic disorder |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:18 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,156
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| Wittgenstein is awesome. Sometimes it can help for a close friend or family member to point out other people who look like you, so you get an idea of what you really look like. If you suspect you look like someone, you can ask them, "Is my nose like that nose?" It's important to use someone who will... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: jail/prison |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 10
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michaelhart22 wrote: i waved a pistol on a open freeway cause some people in a truck called me a fag (which im not btw) tried to make my getaway on the bus 5 min later swarms of police, helicopters. got on the bus apprehended me. got 1 night in the pen and 1 year probation no big deal.
What? Are you Rob Van Damme? |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Mom doesn't want me to move out |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 10
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| It's a mom's job to nag and being overbearing sometimes (or all the time). Just do what you think is best and she'll get used to it. It might force her to concentrate on her own interests and life. She'll get over it and be proud of you. I think it's a great idea to live on a sustainable farm. It's ... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Need help! |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I'm friends with a girl who is really pretty and smart and an aspie. She's told me about how hard it was for her to learn eye contact, especially because people were always looking at her face. It's true that the girls might be targeting you for an unpleasant reason, but they also may just like you.... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Academic record destroyed by Autism |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,553
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| I am in the same position. I will let you know if I figure something out. My current plan is to complete another bachelor's degree. I am going through vocational rehabilitation so that maybe I can get some accommodations. I also know that I am great at taking tests, so I plan on using the GRE to ma... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Do Neurotypicals Understand Aspies? Do They Care? |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 2:51 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 3,364
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| I have several family members on the spectrum and I can answer your question (what has an autistic person ever done to you to make you feel bad or out of place). I'm an autism researcher now, but I wasn't always. -Autistic people often have trouble showing how much they love or like you. This is rea... |
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