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05 Mar 2008, 10:49 pm

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... What what you have done?

The same as you, almost invariably, but... on one occasion...

Two kids, their mum and myself, in a beach shop. We picked up two face masks, for the kids. One was priced at £3, the other was somewhat bigger and was priced at £4. We paid and left the shop, then noticed that we had only been charged £6 for the pair.
This time, unusually, pretty much at my insistence, we didn't go in to hand over the extra £1. On thinking about it, I could replay the cashier's actions verbatim. She had taken the two masks, glanced at the price on one, and charged that doubled, without bothering to verify that the other mask was the same price. If she had arbitrarily looked at the £4 one, she would have overcharged us by £1. An error or mistake is one thing, but this was just laziness.


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05 Mar 2008, 10:49 pm

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Totally random topic change, folks. I was in the Health Food store, and put a bottle of Oil of Oregano capsules in my shopping cart, that cost about 10 dollars. When I got through checkout, I placed my bag in the cart, rolled it outside, and was about to take my bag and leave, when I noticed that the jar had fallen into the bottom of the cart. And had not been paid for. Without even thinking about it, I re-entered the store, got in line, explained what had happened, and got a funny look from the cashier. And from about two other customers. She finally said, "Not many people would have come back in." Somehow, I felt that I had been wrong to take the action that I had. Now, I know that I wasn't wrong, but the reactions that I got from others made me feel that I had been stupid. What what you have done?


I'd have taken it back and paid them what it was worth. It's stealing, otherwise.


That's what I thought. It isn't something I do. But I got the impression from other people that there was some kind of choice in the matter. Every time somebody steals, the prices eventually go up. Since I shop at that particular store a lot, I wouldn't want to contribute to that. And it's just one of those things where I feel like I'm being weird, when I am being my everyday self. Oddly, the cashier said that if it were her, and the item was a little cheaper, she would not have bothered to come back and pay for it!


No, it's ok that you did that. It shows you have an internal sense of justice and ethical behavior. You did not seek to profit from someone else's misfortune. The idea repulses you - that is a good thing.

As to the cashier and the others: Something my folks always said, and I hated it every time they said it, but.... "If everyone jumped off the Brooklyn Bridge, would you want to do it, too?"



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05 Mar 2008, 10:55 pm

oh BUMMER! :(

Jeff Healy died. That boy could play!! !! ! (He's the blind guy playing horizontal guitar in this video.)


[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqU9RZqvFKY[/youtube]



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05 Mar 2008, 11:07 pm

Yes, major bummer. Just read in Wikipedia. The big "C", age 41.

That's awful! He will be sorely missed.



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05 Mar 2008, 11:47 pm

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PzY4l3_xmBA&feature=related[/youtube]


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05 Mar 2008, 11:54 pm

I think we should all celebrate.

Cause if you didn't post, we wouldn't be blessed by your presence.



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06 Mar 2008, 12:10 am

This song has been looping in my head for 4 days.

Hinder - Homecoming Queen

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkG56P9uBeU&feature=related[/youtube]


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06 Mar 2008, 1:19 am

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Lauie,

Don't feel guilty. It's not lot you rubbed your hands together and had evil thoughts .... oooh .... how can I torture my offspring .... I'll dash off to the lab and have this child genetically engineered to have Crohn's Disease.


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Her mother was convinced that all psychiatric disorders were matters of "demonic influence", and if she and her daughter just prayed hard enough, the demons would leave her. That left H feeling guilty for years about not being able to pray away her depressive episodes.


Deacon Blues, this reminds me of a story when I was in the midst of a major depressive episode.

I'd had an extremely bad night - major anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I called a friend to drive me to the GP.

Now, I love this friend dearly but she attends a very strange church (into talking in tongues, rolling around on the floor overcome by the Lord etc).

My friend came over early, and while we were waiting until it was time to go to the appointment, she clutched my hand dramatically and said, 'Oh lord, drive out the demons that have caused this depression .... send your angels to lift up Helen etc etc'

I actually got the giggles. :lol: Here I had been comtemplating suicide, and her prayer was so ridiculous I thought it was hilarious.

Fortunately my friend was so busy praying she didn't notice, and I manage to compose myself in time.

Helen


(((((((((HELEN))))))))))

I just love ya' sweetie! we think so much alike!

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06 Mar 2008, 3:48 am

I want to say "HI" to all the n00bs, and post all you want to, it's encouraged.

And this thread is out of line...holy crud, you guys, I had pages and pages to go through...gave me that sense there's a whole world happening without me...ahahahaha...

And congratulations, Deacon, on your partner getting sergeant. That's awesome. And somehow I find it pleasing one of your laptops is called "Armywife." I bet that's the one that gets the most done...hehehehe.

My laptop is called "You ratf%(*&^))*@)&#H)(#)00@#@#$! !! !! !" Then I throw it.

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06 Mar 2008, 9:34 am

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Totally random topic change, folks. I was in the Health Food store, and put a bottle of Oil of Oregano capsules in my shopping cart, that cost about 10 dollars. When I got through checkout, I placed my bag in the cart, rolled it outside, and was about to take my bag and leave, when I noticed that the jar had fallen into the bottom of the cart. And had not been paid for. Without even thinking about it, I re-entered the store, got in line, explained what had happened, and got a funny look from the cashier. And from about two other customers. She finally said, "Not many people would have come back in." Somehow, I felt that I had been wrong to take the action that I had. Now, I know that I wasn't wrong, but the reactions that I got from others made me feel that I had been stupid. What what you have done?


I'd have taken it back and paid them what it was worth. It's stealing, otherwise.


That's what I thought. It isn't something I do. But I got the impression from other people that there was some kind of choice in the matter. Every time somebody steals, the prices eventually go up. Since I shop at that particular store a lot, I wouldn't want to contribute to that. And it's just one of those things where I feel like I'm being weird, when I am being my everyday self. Oddly, the cashier said that if it were her, and the item was a little cheaper, she would not have bothered to come back and pay for it!


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Hartzofspace, I applaud your honesty. I have done the same thing. I do not explain away cashier mistakes as someone else's fault. I have worked in retail, and believe me, if there were more people who did what you did maybe the world would be a better place, even if only in microcosm. I do not profit by someone else's unfortunate errors. That cashier might have been so short in her till that she would have been hauled into the office. I have seen this happen. :evil:

Sorry, so late in replying. I just saw your post. Thank you for sharing this.


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06 Mar 2008, 9:45 am

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My laptop is called "You ratf%(*&^))*@)&#H)(#)00@#@#$! !! !! !" Then I throw it.


I love it, Rjaye. :lol:
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06 Mar 2008, 9:59 am

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Totally random topic change, folks. I was in the Health Food store, and put a bottle of Oil of Oregano capsules in my shopping cart, that cost about 10 dollars. When I got through checkout, I placed my bag in the cart, rolled it outside, and was about to take my bag and leave, when I noticed that the jar had fallen into the bottom of the cart. And had not been paid for. Without even thinking about it, I re-entered the store, got in line, explained what had happened, and got a funny look from the cashier. And from about two other customers. She finally said, "Not many people would have come back in." Somehow, I felt that I had been wrong to take the action that I had. Now, I know that I wasn't wrong, but the reactions that I got from others made me feel that I had been stupid. What what you have done?


I would have done the same, Hartz. Once, around the holidays, I was food shopping and had my cart piled mile-high. I had a couple of little kids with me and it was hectic at the check-out. My bill came to about $150.00. As we were loading the groceries into the truck, I suddenly realized that I hadn't paid the cashier. She was obviously as stressed as I was. I went back in and said "I forgot to pay you." She was checking out another customer. She was shocked that this had occurred, and that she had not realized it until I came back in. So I paid her of course, and she thanked me, over and over, saying most people would not have come back in, especially around the holidays when money is so scarce and needed. I couldn't live with myself if I had not gone back in to pay. And I'm sure the kids who were with me learned much from this incident.



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06 Mar 2008, 12:20 pm

sartresue wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
Nan wrote:
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Totally random topic change, folks. I was in the Health Food store, and put a bottle of Oil of Oregano capsules in my shopping cart, that cost about 10 dollars. When I got through checkout, I placed my bag in the cart, rolled it outside, and was about to take my bag and leave, when I noticed that the jar had fallen into the bottom of the cart. And had not been paid for. Without even thinking about it, I re-entered the store, got in line, explained what had happened, and got a funny look from the cashier. And from about two other customers. She finally said, "Not many people would have come back in." Somehow, I felt that I had been wrong to take the action that I had. Now, I know that I wasn't wrong, but the reactions that I got from others made me feel that I had been stupid. What what you have done?


I'd have taken it back and paid them what it was worth. It's stealing, otherwise.


That's what I thought. It isn't something I do. But I got the impression from other people that there was some kind of choice in the matter. Every time somebody steals, the prices eventually go up. Since I shop at that particular store a lot, I wouldn't want to contribute to that. And it's just one of those things where I feel like I'm being weird, when I am being my everyday self. Oddly, the cashier said that if it were her, and the item was a little cheaper, she would not have bothered to come back and pay for it!


Honesty is the best policy topic

Hartzofspace, I applaud your honesty. I have done the same thing. I do not explain away cashier mistakes as someone else's fault. I have worked in retail, and believe me, if there were more people who did what you did maybe the world would be a better place, even if only in microcosm. I do not profit by someone else's unfortunate errors. That cashier might have been so short in her till that she would have been hauled into the office. I have seen this happen. :evil:
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I would have had to go back and pay, too.
and it would have not been for some noble principles or moral scruple.

nope, it would have been for self serving reasons and simple survival. My karma would have smacked me in the back of my noggin' v(much less padding than my a**) and I would have no licience to whinge!

that ALONE would have driven me back to pay!

Merle



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06 Mar 2008, 2:12 pm

ow ow, what an amount of pages ...
incredible, do i read this all the time ?
that's what i realise when i have been occupied by studying,
hm,
just here to say hello ...


(i did reed your reply on 'add' chuck but haven't had the time to write a proper answer, will do so later)



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06 Mar 2008, 3:48 pm

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I would have had to go back and pay, too.
and it would have not been for some noble principles or moral scruple.

nope, it would have been for self serving reasons and simple survival. My karma would have smacked me in the back of my noggin' v(much less padding than my a**) and I would have no licience to whinge!

that ALONE would have driven me back to pay!

Merle


I am glad so many agree with me. My reasons for returning to pay for the item were much like yours, Merle. And, not only would it have made me cringe inside to the point of illness, there would have been a quality to the whole transaction that would have jarred, like making up a bed and leaving one corner not tucked in. I would have felt poor, pathetic, stupid, and misguided. Looking back, I could tell those people thought that I really cared about their opinions and/or approval, and didn't know that I couldn't possibly have acted in any other way. Just set in my ways, I guess! :)


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06 Mar 2008, 4:42 pm

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like making up a bed and leaving one corner not tucked in. :)


Really. Hartz! Oh that I could be like that!


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