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15 Apr 2008, 8:49 pm
Another thought, I never did well in a formal school setting, but did ok when i figured out a method to accomplish the same thing that fit me.
You can find out what the exercises (I assume) are and maybe find another setting or another way that he might like better.
Maybe something more aspie conducive? You did mention incontinence, that can be overcome if it is just poor muscles control.
It takes patience and he is aware, so baring the narcolepsy, it is fixable. It is a matter of holding it a little longer each time.
Like a little kid does and that's exactly why they do it, they just don't know it.
And as Krex and Sleepy said if he hasn't had a really thorough physical, that is a must. Just to rule out other problems.
He needs an attitude shift, not as easy. But again I go back to obsessions or likes.
Look, I hardly ever go outside, but have not enough time to do what I'd like inside as it is.
That is my attitude, it would probably drive most anyone up a wall, but not me. They're constantly trying to "fix" me.
Sometimes when it comes to therapists and doctors we relate easier to some better than others.
It very well might be the one he was seeing wasn't the right one for him.
Get inventive, think out of the box.
Any kind of doctor that you would suggest? We would need one that will come to the house and evaluate him quietly if it is to happen at all.
I don't know, you'd have to check the yellow pages. Doctor Schmoctor, get a witch if ya got to, but turn his pointy head around.
(no don't look for Doc Schmoc, he doesn't make house calls)
Me thinks I'm seeing a big time case of "codependency" here. Not sure, but it's possible.
My wife and I are codependents and we're functional in our dysfunction.
We are aware of when we're doing it and call it's name out loud when either of us see it.
But we are aware and we know the harm it can do to both of us.
I'm just better at it then she is, shame on me.
Although she can still swing it out of the blue and I don't know what the f**k hit me.
I just know she did it and don't know how.
It's control, man, it's control and it isn't always a good thing.
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15 Apr 2008, 8:51 pm
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15 Apr 2008, 9:17 pm
I haven't played "Brain Age" but I have played "Big Brain Academy" on the Wii. It is challenging while being simplistic. Iv made it to "Marketing Guru/Doctor" Ive only played it twice but I'm sure it would help with brain plasticity and it's entertaining too. I'd get it for him ASAP if I were you. "More playing...less griping"
Ive been over at freerice off and on all day. up to 50 is my highest level, have probably "fed a whole village" getting there through 
15 Apr 2008, 9:28 pm
I'm sorry to hear that you're having so much trouble with your dad, Morning-after.
You're father is angry, and that is to be expected when there is a such a big loss of independence. He really isn't that old, after all. But you, your mother and your siblings will have to stand up to him and do what you think is best. He isn't going to be happy about the loss of control he has over you but he will either get used to it, or he won't. Either way, you need to carry on doing what you know is right. Whatever you did today to get his butt moving when you had to get the lift fixed worked. You seem to know how to deal with him, you just can't let him get to you with his anger. I'm sure he knows you love him, in spite of the choices your family will have to make regarding his care.
I feel for your mother and for you. I was married to a man that sounds much like your father and someone like that can wear down the entire family. Take care of each other. 
(Brain Age is an excellent game for all sorts of neurological conditioning. I'm afraid there is nothing that can keep him from getting Alzheimer's but using the game has been shown to slow the progression of the disease.)
15 Apr 2008, 9:32 pm
Ive been over at freerice off and on all day. up to 50 is my highest level, have probably "fed a whole village" getting there through
Did you have fun playing the brain game?
15 Apr 2008, 9:36 pm
You're father is angry, and that is to be expected when there is a such a big loss of independence. He really isn't that old, after all. But you, your mother and your siblings will have to stand up to him and do what you think is best. He isn't going to be happy about the loss of control he has over you but he will either get used to it, or he won't. Either way, you need to carry on doing what you know is right. Whatever you did today to get his butt moving when you had to get the lift fixed worked. You seem to know how to deal with him, you just can't let him get to you with his anger. I'm sure he knows you love him, in spite of the choices your family will have to make regarding his care.
I feel for your mother and for you. I was married to a man that sounds much like your father and someone like that can wear down the entire family. Take care of each other.
(Brain Age is an excellent game for all sorts of neurological conditioning. I'm afraid there is nothing that can keep him from getting Alzheimer's but using the game has been shown to slow the progression of the disease.)
Thank you, blessed.
Have you played "Brain Age"? Is it fun?
And how's Canada this evening?
15 Apr 2008, 9:37 pm
Ive been over at freerice off and on all day. up to 50 is my highest level, have probably "fed a whole village" getting there through
I was just thinking that I should have gotten you to start the thread with "Free Rice" over in the Games forum. I'm not sure if it's because I'm extremely boring or what but if my name is on a thread I can guarantee few people will stop to check it out. I used to think I was being paranoid but after a few more attempts I've come to realize that it is indeed the case. I'll have to change my username to LaurBore at the rate I'm going.
Maybe that's the secret behind my thread killing ability, too.
15 Apr 2008, 9:46 pm
Have you played "Brain Age"? Is it fun?
And how's Canada this evening?
You're welcome!
I have played it on the DS and I find that it has helped my ability to focus and remember day-to-day things. One of my kids teachers recommended it when she heard that I have ADHD. I'm sure she was only trying to get me to remember to send lil girl's library books back on time.
Canada, or my part of the country was weirder than weird today. We started out with snow, which melted by 11am. The sun was shining and it had warmed up. I went for a walk at 12:30pm and by the time I got back at 1, the wind had started to howl and we had a half hour thunder storm followed by 20 minutes of half inch hail. Within about a half hour the sun was peaking out and before we knew it, the snow was coming down like crazy again.
They always say when you come here that if you don't like the weather you should just wait a minute and it will change but this was ridiculous.
Everything else is just same old, same old.
And is work better now that you have the Transition lenses in your glasses? I would think it would help immensely.
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