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01 May 2008, 5:51 pm

As I am sure you are all siting on the edge of your seats wondering about my bllod test....results are in already and my thyroid was low again. Nobody has mentioned "why" this is happening or anything to stop it, they just keep slooooowly increasing my dose. Anyway, the last time they uped me I noticed an improvement so this might help me be a bit less crazy..one can only hope :wink:


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01 May 2008, 8:06 pm

About balancing work and personal interests, speaking for myself, it couldn't be done. When I used to work full time, I found myself burning the candle at both ends, trying to do things that I loved, as well as put in the necessary hours. I ended up with burn-out. :(


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01 May 2008, 8:09 pm

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I know firsthand of some people who got bad acid. One guy, a family member, never came back from that trip. He lost his wife, his five kids, his house and his farm, not to mention his mind. The other two cases resulted in suicide by hanging and by jumping out a window. I would never recommend it to anyone. I never tried LSD myself, but still I would say "stay away from major mind altering drugs." This is not a moral judgement. I don't think you have to have "been there, done that" yourself to take a stand against or discount drug use. I too would be interested to know how or what LSD has contributed to the health and well being of mankind.


And some perscription drugs can do that, too. Isn't that part of the issue with psychiatric medications.

I've been on those for years, so I wouldn't advise discounting them, but people still have to be careful.

I think I've had to put my psychiatrists on a limit of two. i think I flat out told the last one I was not willing to take more than two a day.


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01 May 2008, 8:19 pm

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Sure does sound like a word that would be good steamed and spread with some melted butter...then again...what wouldn't.


So how about you and I get together and eat some roasted umbrage hahahahah.

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Funny but true...a teenager saw me looking through the rocks and said..."Are you an arcitect or just looking at rocks?" 8O That had me stumped for a few seconds...I think that was when the word umbridge popped into my head


At least it doesn't sound like he got alarmed ("There's someone outside stealing rocks!! !")


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01 May 2008, 8:28 pm

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I'm mind stuck. I don't know what I want to be if I grow up.


John Cougar Mellencamp wrote:
I said, "Growing up leads to growing old, which leads to dying,
And dyin', to me, don't sound like all that much fun!"


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01 May 2008, 8:36 pm

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I am happy that you chose the diner to post your 5000 :D


Nan...take the money and run. That is such awesome news. It kind of makes the whole religious concept that "God" makes bad things happen so we can appreciate the good all the more...make a little bit of sense.(even if I still don't think it's true) OK God, I get it...you can knock it off now and I promise to appreciate.


My word for the day...denizens...as in the grand denizens of this cafe. I was just wondering (while I was looking up info about minerals in MN and rock hounded info.....(when I should be looking for a new job or a million other productive things)

How do you deal with your obsessions? Before I learned about AS...I called these my "addictions" and thought they were examples of my evil tendency to avoid things that I would rather not do...so I tried really hard to repress them, with some(limited) success. I tried to make a deal with myself to only be obsessed with things that were "good for me"...like my biking or yoga OR things that could eventually make some money and make me less reliaent on a "real job". Be practicle. I allowed my self a few "slips" with my compulsive reading, sudokus, crosswords...but would eventually get back on track..practicle. I chose jobs where I could get paid and still be able to do these things(pretty sneaky of me, no?). Working over nights was a godsend.

Now I find that I am spoiled by this...I don't want to work day hours and give up my over night free time...but that really limits the kind of work I can do. Most of it is dead end and all the things I have found(social service types) also require working with people I don't really like(staff not clients) or violent unpredictable clients...or noisy over crowded dogs or working mornings or driving or says must multi-task or have special training...or pays dirt and most jobs have several of those "draw backs". Other people seem to except that they are going to be miserable and stressed at their work(that's why they pay us, right?)

I'm mind stuck. I don't know what I want to be if I grow up.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just need to whine but I was wondering how you all manage to balance your interests with working full time. It kind of feels like people who are on a diet but still has to be around food, (unlike alhohol, that I could mostly avoid).

Whine over. How do you handle balancing real life and obsessions?


I once heard that it's a good idea, if we can, to go into a profession involving our special interests. For example, mine is in radio, so I was encouraged to work at a radio station or something.


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01 May 2008, 8:36 pm

Happy 5,000 Merle.


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01 May 2008, 8:39 pm

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As I am sure you are all siting on the edge of your seats wondering about my bllod test....results are in already and my thyroid was low again. Nobody has mentioned "why" this is happening or anything to stop it, they just keep slooooowly increasing my dose. Anyway, the last time they uped me I noticed an improvement so this might help me be a bit less crazy..one can only hope :wink:


and keep your fingers crossed. And pray.


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01 May 2008, 8:49 pm

Doing a job related to your special interests makes more sense if they don't keep changing. I mean I never stop liking certain things but they aren't things anyone is going to pay me to do or that I even do well. I love to read but nto critic or edit(can't spell and just make up my own grammer rules). I love to pick up rocks but writing scientific articles about them...not so much. I am getting paid to cuddle dogs...but I would enjoy it more if they were mute :D . I loooove o craft but no one wants to buy what I make.

I do think there might be jobs that I could do well but I just don't know what they are and don't know how to research every possible job there is....that is why I went in for the DX...I thought they would help me figure out my strengths and weaknesses and what jobs might be best...they don't do that and since I have maintained employment for up to 6 year at a time...it look like I can work with out assistance from the normal job placemnets(most of which only help you apply to McDonalds). After all, they aren't designed to help you be "fulfilled" just to keep you off welfare.


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01 May 2008, 10:04 pm

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Happy 5,000 Merle.


Thanks.

Is your name also "Sam?"

Merle



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01 May 2008, 10:28 pm

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morning_after wrote:
Happy 5,000 Merle.


Thanks.

Is your name also "Sam?"

Merle


That it is.

And I think I'm close to my first K


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02 May 2008, 12:51 am

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I never stop liking certain things but they aren't things anyone is going to pay me to do or that I even do well. I love to read, I love to pick up rocks, but ... ... I do think there might be jobs that I could do well but I just don't know what they are ... I thought [assistance] would help me figure out my strengths and weaknesses and what jobs might be best...they don't do that ...

I never worked this out either.

I once thought i might be approaching a solution, on an assisted scheme, 12 years ago, with free full assessment process involved to find out your strengths etc. I found out that I was brilliant, almost off the chart, for language use, excellent at pattern recognition, brilliant at logic stuff, etc. My worst score was at spatial stuff, but even that was in the upper quarter of the population. The recommendations for me were stuff like lawyer, publisher, something else impressive, and systems analyst, etc etc.

I was 33. I had scraped through university on sheer brains but no executive skills at all, I had been on sickness benefit for anxiety and depression. I had worked in restaurants, petrol station, farms, chip shops, libraries, as an accountant, in the civil service, ... my work-record was weird to put it mildly, and they really thought I was going to get into publishing, or law? 8O :? :roll:

I remember saying to a friend, who had been worried about me for a long time, that perhaps my "job" was thinking. The trouble is that unless you write a book, or come to a final conclusion, work in academia in tenured posts with little teaching time to interfere with it, or have connections in the press, it doesn't count as a job.

I think if I could have found a peaceful reassuring environment to do some routine daily unrushed task I might have managed. But the daily routine jobs I found were all rushed and noisy.

And me too I change angle/approach the whole time, even if the main themes stay the same, ( for instance I was cutting out and filing articles about diet/nutrition, and reading about Jung and Eysenck, when I was 14). At sixth form college teachers fretted about my choice of subjects because they were all over the shop; maths, art, english and biology. I wanted to do everything, except chemistry, music, or foreign languages. :wink: Completely failed to executively decide about what would serve me best in the long run, if anything.

Sorry, krex, no idea. Just understanding. What I did in the end was accidentally end up with a stay-at-home job as mother to son of a guy who doesn't yet mind me not working and seems to prefer me in his life, even thyroidly grumpy, than not.

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What I did in the end was accidentally end up with a stay-at-home job as mother to son of a guy who doesn't yet mind me not working and seems to prefer me in his life, even thyroidly grumpy, than not.


My situation too. Just make that sons, plural, and substitute "chronically depressed" for "thyroidly grumpy."

I was, supposedly, bright enough to do anything I damn-well wanted to. What happened? Couldn't organise my way out of a wet paper bag. Barely scraped a pass at university. Worked at the usual incongruous assortment of meaningless, menial jobs. Ended up a stay-at-home mum, married to a guy who'd be delighted if I never stepped foot out of the house again (except to go grocery shopping).

If there's a niche I'm supposed to fit into, I haven't found it yet.



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02 May 2008, 1:45 am

and I ended up in a small apartment in Salem, OR with a cat and a job I hve had up to here (indicates with hand held to my neck) a psychologist that considers me a hobby he is trying to fit into his retirement somewhere.

isn't it strange how it happens?

Merle



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02 May 2008, 2:35 am

I was one of those liberal females to proud to even let a guy buy me dinner...cheap(free) date and sex...who needs to marry me? Actually, until this last one, I was always the one who ran away and never had an inclination to breed...pass on these genes? Drag another spirit into physical sentience when I couldn't even stand to be here?

I know if I could just not have to leave the house for a year, I could invent something worth selling, create something worth owning. It's the daily drains and destractions that keep me from focusing that are so frustrating to me. I know...welcome to the real world...it still sucks and the idea of at least 20 more years of this.I know,one day at a time, right Merle.


I watched Into The Wild tonight.....it made me restless. How the hell could he starve with a book on ediable plants and miles of food around him...weren't there fish in that river out his back door? I think he must have been aspie(except that people liked him), because he was so smart and so stuipid at the same time. Well,maybe that is just the human curse, not the aspie curse.


I have still not given up on the idea of living in the dessert with Inventor and some crazy cat ladies, hope to see some of you there.


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I was one of those liberal females too proud to even let a guy buy me dinner

So was I ! :? 8O Something happened; sex I think ( really good sex, for the first time in my life ), after a summer of sunshine, physical activity, and then there was the pregnancy.
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I watched Into The Wild tonight.....it made me restless. How the hell could he starve with a book on edible plants and miles of food around him...weren't there fish in that river out his back door?

He probably just couldn't be bothered to move. It was so wonderful just staring at the landscape. :wink: :) 8O
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I have still not given up on the idea of living in the dessert with Inventor.

I would like to live in a dessert sometimes; chocolate mousse or marzipan and macaroon cake would be my choice! :wink: :D

The desert would be good too in 15 years maybe but right now feel fairly safe here, and i don't think I'd be allowed into the USA. ( tho I'd love to see New York).

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