The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I had an interesting experience in the super-market. I was finished shopping and in line for the cashier. There was a woman in front of me and the cashier was just finishing up with her order, ringing up her last few items. I began putting my groceries/items up on the counter beginning with two cans of coffee. I had a very large order. Because the woman ahead of me was almost finished I didn't use the dividing bar to divide our orders. I just figured the coffee cans were where my order began and the other woman's ended.

The cashier asked the woman if the coffee belonged to her order. I told the cashier "No, the coffee is the beginning of my order. The conveyor belt was moving as I continued to put my items on it. The cashier said to me "You have to put the bar down or it will keep going." I took her words completely literal. In my mind I thought she meant that if I put the bar (the dividing bar) down the conveyor belt would stop and that would have prevented my coffee cans from moving up the belt and possibly getting mixed in with the other woman's items. So I replied to the cashier "Oh, really, that's neat, that's really cool," thinking that someone had invented a dividing bar that would stop the belt from moving. After all, she did say if I didn't put the bar down "it will keep going." I thought she meant the belt and that there must be a magnet or something in the bar that would stop the action that rolls the conveyor belt. The cashier must have thought I was being rude or sarcastic or maybe mocking her when I said "that's neat". She didn't respond at all and throughout the rest of our transaction she only looked at and spoke to my husband who was packing the groceries. As we left the store my husband said to me "Wow, that cashier was really nice and so polite." I started laughing and said "She may have been nice to you but she was rude as hell to me." I told him that she was being extra nice to him because she didn't like me. On the drive home it dawned on me what had transpired. It's pretty funny, what happened on that occasion, but sometimes it not so funny and taking words literally and then responding to those words as if they were literal makes people angry with me and I start thinking I must be some kind of terrible person that people always get mad at.
When I told my husband what the woman said and how I thought a new dividing bar had been invented or put into use since the last time we shopped at that store, he laughed too, but said "it would be a good invention."

And we could give each contestant a chronic, fatigue inducing illness, and give a few of the children a disability or two just for kicks!

( Okay, JUST reading that has made me extremely tired. Is it too late for me to quit? Go on strike? Retire??
Back to work for me.)

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Gromit, I do believe my chocolate stores are seeming a tad scant. Chocolate to the usual address. thank you!

When told by someone not just a mere mortal, mine's not to reason why, mine's just to do or die. Especially when delivering this kind of chocolate. It's from Cahoots. Handle with care.

I sent a copy to my friend.

Lurking as usual.....

yup.

Oh, let's make the parent an aspie, to boot! ; )

ok. well, one outa three so far. the a/c arrived on time. looks to be the correct model, size, undamaged, correct voltage, all the parts there. very detailed set of instructions, all of which i can do except the part about lifting it and putting it in the wallsleeve.

the handyman referral service guy who said i should call him when it arrived and he'd stop by to give me a quote (wouldn't give me a ballpark estimate by phone) flaked.

the backup guy who emailed me back when i emailed him what i needed done yesterday saying to call him first thing this morning flaked and did not answer his "answered 24 hours a day" message number and did not return two phone messages.

i picked up a pennysaver, found "john the handyman, 35 years experience, no job too small" and did a "hail mary" call. john called back within two hours, says it's going to be too hot for us to not have a/c by friday and that he'll stop by after he finishes his scheduled job tomorrow with a helper and take care of the installation for us. i told him friday would be fine if he was booked up tomorrow (which he is), but that since the kid had heat issues it'd be nice to have it overnight on thursday night. he said he'd make sure it ran and that there was no way he was gonna let her have to sleep in the heat. so, he's due here tomorrow at 4:30 and says it'll be $75 plus the "hazardous waste" disposal fee for the old unit.

will be interesting to see if third time is a charm, again....

Oh hope you get the A/C installed soon! I'll keep my fingers crossed.

Perfect for Mother's Day. Indeed, perfect for most any occasion.

I went to a Tony Attwood seminar yesterday. I met up with Szygish.

We found a couple of seats together next to a lady. After a couple of hours I asked her whether she was a parent or a teacher.

Neither, she was a 44 year old who had just been diagnosed with Asperger's and came to the conference looking for some answers. Szygish and I exchanged e-mails with her.

My husband collects stamps, my sons collect cars, bionicles and lego, and I collect Aspies!

Helen

very cool indeed!

that's a co-incidence

nan...sounds like your new "helper" actually has some compassion . I hope it goes as planned.


Helen...are you going to post a thread about what your learning at the conference?


Two topics and I am making a concerted effort to keep it brief...

One is I had my own run in with slowmutant in my thread about AS and nonverbal communication. The point of the thread was that NVC disability was a real condition that could inhibit our ability to get and keep jobs and we should try and learn it and have some kind of "understanding " of our difficulty by interviewers. He ranted about me being full of whatever and a maryter and he wa sick of all this self pity and I should pull my head out of my....etc. I deleated his post because I was seeing red. I almost asked for him to be banned but I had deleated his post so had no evidence of his abusive language ANyway, I hope the mods will keep an eye on him because I see this as very destructive behavior. I come here for information, humor and support not to be insulted (not my ideas ,I don't mind debate, but me as a human).


The second thing is an interesting article someone posted about oxytocin and AS. I thought this had been mentioned here before but wasn't sure what others thought about it. I hope Chuck is around soon to weigh in



Heeeey Chuuuuck.....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin

The reason I was intrigued by this was because I was an orgasm addict from 12 until 30ish. I also still stim (in private mostly) by rubbing my thumb against a nipple...sorry for TMI but it just needed to be explained in the context of these article because it mentioned both these things in releasng Oxytocin.

What doesn't fit me, is that I was always very trusting of people as a kid...I didn't become my current paranoid self until I had several negative experinces with people. I also was and still am very generious. Not meaning to be boastful but I just have always given to charities and people on the street and bought things for the clients I use to work with,etc. I do do more for people I know and really like but I have the impulse t give even to people I have no personal connection with...like someone here mentioning the liked to read but couldn't while watching their babay and my first thought was...I should send them some of my books on tape. I'm not going to do this because people seem to respond to my offers negatively, so I try and not do it with strangers, (I guess it is a boundery issue). I don't think I have good boundarys...isn't that atypical of AS...aren't we supposed to be living in bubbles or something...I feel like I would do well in a communie because I like to share..it feels good. So does that mean I have to much Oxytocin...or does the orgasm addiction and nupple stimming mean I am low? How does the low thyroid and anxiety(adrinal) figure into this theory?

Confused and awaiting insight.

Yes. But in a few days.

Too sleepy now!

Helen