The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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And now for some totally random and unrelated items . . .

The ruby-throated hummingbirds returned to my yard on Tues. and I was ready for them. The feeder is already out and filled! I don't know why but watching those tiny birds is very soothing to me.

Yesterday I found out that an ego-maniacal man, who my father worked for and who caused terrible trauma for my family when I was a child, died in March. I'm feeling a little guilty, but I'm much happier (and relieved) about his death than the hummingbirds. My sister said that she is still so traumatized that she had a hard time reading the obituary. She said she will never return to the town where we lived when the stuff happened, as tempting as it would be to go and dance on his grave. Fortunately we both live over a thousand miles from the town, and so aren't constantly reminded of how he treated my parents and of our being forced into homelessness for a time. When we moved from there, we lived in an abandoned church building for a year, and then in a camper for a summer. It was over a year-a-half before we were able to rent a real house again.

When I think back about my childhood, it is like a bad dream that happened to someone else. I've even wondered if it was all our fault. But that obituary pointed out the self-centered, antisocial, and mean-spirited nature of the man, and I'm realizing that my parents trusted a user who was bad to the end. Let the healing begin!

Z

Nan, reality check...your memo gave her a way out of her trying to bully you into complying with her desires and her exit response..."I only meant my photo could be used" sounds very insincere to me. I believe she said that she believed in the mandatory vote which would mean you had no say in you choice. She is full of s**t and hopefully at least knows this herself and hasn't reframed her own response in her mind to think she was not being manipulative...but I never underestimate humans ability to delude themselves when it comes to their own self image.

Feel free to indulge in an extra glass of Merlo when you arrive home. Hope the repair man arrives, he probably could use one too.


Thanks for the comments Blessedmom. I really would like to know more about this and hormones in general. I wonder if there are any autism experts who are also endocrinologist. I really believe that there is more to autism then brain wiring and believe that some of the more negative aspects of it could be chemical imbalances, digestion, environmental issues. I just don't see it as being an either/or issue and wish the researchers would start doing more with adult populations because I think it may hold answers to the "puzzle". I wish I had a better scientific mind, I would love to be a researcher working on this but most of this stuff is just to far out of my knowledge base and way over my head.


Merle...thanks for your comment to Mutant...I had a similar response and was thinking of responding to him but you beat me to it I was most surprised that he made no comment about my deleting his original post to me...maybe he felt bad about it afterwords. I am wondering if he is really young( he said he lives with his parents) and just is scared to death at the prospect of facing some of the difficulties functioning that some of us adults have experienced....that seems to be what he mostly attacks, the concept that even if you try your hardest, we have some traits that make life very difficult. My first thought was that he was like Rukus from The Boondocks<---my favorite cartoon. He is African American who hates all African Americans and is constantly using stereotypes to insult them. Might be some episodes on utube....very interesting show. Or he could be an NT or just a jerk.

nevermind

nan...my granny use to say, you should always add a little suger when you are giving some one some medicine(I suppose the same is true for poisen ) I was probably in my 20's before I actually understood what she meant and now I always make sure I throw in a few compliments before I tell someone something they don't want to hear.


Social Skills 101 from my BF.


He was packing for a trip last night and I mentioned that he might want to try on his dress clothes before he packed them because we haven't "dressed" in anything but comfy clothes for the past 2 years. He just stared at first and said...that wasn't very nice. It took me awhile to figure out why because I was speaking from experience...packed cloths that no longer fit me because I only wear them when I travel to see my "up-tight" family. He wasn't to upset, (we both know he has gained weight in the past two years...so have I) but I am still not sure if there is a more "polite" way of saying this and I don't think he would have thought to do this unless I said something.


This is the first time in about 4 years that we have been apart...it's gonna be so weird, he is like my "extra brain"...we are two halves that almost make a whole

wasn't very nice? you did him a FAVOR by reminding him to check! what if he'd gotten there and found out they didn't fit?

the repair guy came. the old a/c was rusted to the frame,but they got it out.
the new one is in.

it runs. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Awesome new NAN.

It is so weird living alone(for all of 12 hours)...I actually forgot what it is like to make decissions about when I wanted to eat, should I take a nap, how long am I on the computer(all day ). He doesn't ever try to control me but I guess I control myself making the little comprimises that go with sharing habitation with "other"....just weird.

ohmygod though, it has a remote control? i have to PROGRAM the air conditioner????! !! !

I'l have the kid do it.

Everything – but everything – electronic these days seems to have a built-in clock that needs to be reset everybloodytime the power goes off (which it does with annoying regularity) or if there's a change between standard and daylight time. The pay-TV decoder box and the computer seem able to reset themselves. Otherwise, unless it's crucial to have the exact time set for some reason, our other clocks remain at 0:00:00.

What the heck, at least they're correct twice a day.

Sleepy Dragon, my friend, the woman who has met my husband ......

Jim (other half) sets all our clocks. His big accomplishment after a blackout, is to reset all the clocks to the EXACT same time. It is a thing to be remarked upon and admired!

Robyn

I was walking past the mental hospital the other day, and all the patients were shouting," 13...13...13" The fence was too high to see over, but I saw a little gap in the planks and looked through to see what was going on. Some bastard poked me in the eye with a stick.
Then they all started shouting, "14... 14... 14".......

Quoting Ouinon: