01 Feb 2011, 3:33 am
rubybear wrote:
Sounds interesting tho. Did he say you're supposed to live that way? If you're supposed to strive for that?
He had some interesting ideas. I dicussed my sleep-rhythm (less time lost with sleeping, more time for living) experiments with that doctor and while he did agree that I better stop, he was curious about the effects. Also taught me neuro-linguistic programming and some other things along those lines.
He never literally said to live my life switching those three perspectives. When I went back later, I said I had been practising and he said 'good'. After that we never spoke about it again. I just took it as a handy tool, like those other skills I learned there.
Thinking about it, I never really got perspective two, the empathy one.
When people tell me something that warrants a switch to 2, I think of something that happened to me that made me like they are now. This helps me to get the facial expression right. Some times that is enough and people do not talk further.
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I have tangents, where I sort of go off on other things, and have to remind myself to come back to the original thing.
I like tangents. I use them for my attitude correction.
For me this is funny. It is rather internal though.
My work is with rotations of objects in different coordinate systems.
Vessel positioning in the ocean. The orientation of a vessel is called "attitude".
Attitude correction is a word I use daily to indicate that I took the vessel orientation in account to adjust for example an image of the sea bottom so I can show it in world perspective.
Trigonometry tangents.
"Attitude correction" is also what I try to do to myself in the example above when trying to switch to perspective 2 when listentening to someone with a sad story.
I have to figure out how to get to their coordinate system.
Looking it up now... "sudden digression or change of course", that must be it.
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I have tangents, where I sort of go off on other things, and have to remind myself to come back to the original thing.
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I think this is an ADD aspect, where your mind comes up with all sorts of however lightly related thoughts.
When I am working or fixated on an interest, I have no diversions. I tend to forget I need food/sleep even.
When I do something that leaves some brain processing power unused, that extra capacity immediately starts entertaining me with ideas. Usually more interesting stuff than the chore I am doing then.
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If I'm talking with someone, I focus on what they're saying and try to stay on their subject (had to train for that one... I used to go off on my own thing)
That was what was so much fun about that wedding party conversation.
It is precisely that, that I did not have to do. And then the other just hopped along to all those tangents.
This does never happen to me normally.
Do you know other people with ADD?
Is this more difficult or more easy when two people with ADD talk?
Those that I met so far, that I am aware off having AD(H)D, seemed preoccupied with focussing.
I could not connect like the way it happened at that wedding party. Then again, never had a good opportunity to talk alone. Somehow I always met them in a group where we seemed to prefer staring at the campfire to talking. Hmm.
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When I realize I have gone off and not heard what the person said, I repeat what they said
I recognize the repeating when trying to get back to a (shortly abandoned) conversation.
With books I have that similarly. There was a period when over a week I went 30 pages backwards in a book (Dune: chapterhouse). I did not mind, as it gave wonderful food for thought.
People that asked me about my progress did seem to find it strange.
Sometimes I can not recall the last line in a conversation, or I notice halfway their sentence that I am with my head in the clouds. I used to say "I got an e an o and boat. Did Jeffrey get a boat?". Usually I am way off with my guessing.
I remember asking the doctor if he could check my ears when I was a kid.
My problem was that I had to ask for so many repeats that people got angry because of it.
Ears were fine ofcourse. He told me to just keep asking.
People did get angry and I ended up guessing a whole lot and sometimes getting in trouble because of it.
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I know we're "supposed" to be like the NT's, but I think some things are good that are aspergerish. I would rather really understand and hear what the person said than pretend to understand and perhaps look "normal", I suppose.
Yes, I have that longing as well. The more I understand myself though, the less likely it seems that will ever happen. My brain has different qualities and no psychological technique can change the hardware.
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anyway, I hope I haven't gone too far off on my own thing! Take care!
No, you have not. I like reading your posts, as I recognize a lot and learn about you as a person this way.
It is difficult to ask good questions for me, so I just type alot and hope there is something interesting in it somewhere.
Feel free to type, tangents are welcome also
