Why the aversion to posting age & location?

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I tried running a google search on WP for "TwoByFour" and as an unpleasant surprise, one of the results showed my full name. That result pointed to my WP "blogview" . I have now edited my profile so that the only information in there is my first name...I never expected or wanted this information to be shown anywhere.

Although I don't care that most of you know who I am, I do not want this information to pop up for people who google me to investigate my past.

I don't see how my age and location is relevant tbh

If I lived in a big city I'd PERHAPS examine an option to post also its name here besides a short, dry information "Poland" but taking into consideration this simple fact I am an inhabitant of a small town and that I have already given quite a lot pieces of information about myself (once I posted for instance the name of the city where I was born, the region of country I live in, some details about college I attend, some stories that happened to me) I am not going to be recognised.

I don't want to get too specific because I don't want to get PMs from guys who assume that just because I am female, have been diagnosed with AS and live near them, I should feel obligated to send them pics of myself and meet them in person with the expectation of dating. That used to happen sometimes when my location was more specific, even though I mentioned my boyfriend frequently in posts.

I also don't want to be definitively identified were someone I know in real life to find me here. I know it's unlikely, but it is possible.

For both of the above reasons, I don't want to post a picture either.

Sometimes it's not simply an "aversion".

There are some younger children posting on these boards and i'm sure many others. Their parents may not want them to disclose their age or location for safety reasons, even though the children may want to.
Protecting your kids, all part of being a parent.

As for adults who don't want to post their age and location...well, it's not necessary anyway. This is JUST an internet discussion board, not a list for jury service or a job application. People have a choice, a personal choice as to why they will or will not display age and location...it's not others rights to HAVE to know what their reasons are.

I only list the town if it is a place that is easily recognizable. The reason is that I do want to meet other Aspies, but if it's a town that not very many people have heard of, I will just put a generic area, to be more inclusive.

For example, in lieu of putting "Wichita Falls, Texas" (which doesn't have any Aspies, even if I tweaked the location to include Lawton, Oklahoma, which is just across the state line), I just put "North Texas", which would also include the Dallas-Ft. Worth metroplex, and would also include adjacent areas in Oklahoma (Lawton, Ardmore, Waurika, etc.)

In August, I am moving to San Marcos, which is between Austin and San Antonio, and thus, would be more recognizable.

Age and majority topic

I have stated my age on many forums and posts and also my location. One time a young man asked my age, thinking I was around his age (he stated his at 32 years). My oldest daughter is 34. This tells you I am not in my thirties. I have stated my vital stats in the forum "Getting to know each other, Dino-Style."