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They certainly won't see you as 'just another person' that's for sure. No chance of getting a cold shoulder. Hugs - you will rarely see people hugging in India.
There are hardly any mixed people in India, it's a very homogeneous country, so they will definitely see you as different.

Married with hubby - awwwww, that made me smile this (^__________________^) much.

There are people who would be blowing it up with their possible partners. The system is hardly perfect but I'm glad it is there. If I was from a western country, I would've never got married!

Emoticons - you're so good with them. I just thought that if I am saying something flatly, I should not use any emoticons! Now I think I'll use this one under such circumstances.

And let's hope there are more Guyanese-Indian guys in California in near future [/quote]

so i whould not be only one blowing it up if i was to go though the process of arrange marriage . that just to make some parents up set. no system in the world is ever perfect. the pro of arrange marrige is that is that you wont be single for life if you are unlucky, you dont have this quest finding someone to love it is found for you, dont have to deal with break ups. cons dont know the person fully until after getting marriged( you chould get a bad
apple). you and your parnter may not even love each other. if romance was never found. you could be forced in one.

you cant say that for sure. the dating in the west is so unexpacted and unsure but it can be a little competive when finding partners but the good thing people are looking for different things in a partner so everyone has chance. . one day you may be single and the next day you meet someone you get along with so well so nothing is planned with love here in the
west. but you can get heart broken too. am sure your not bad looking and chould do well if you were from a western country

its nothing, if they did not have pre emoticons and what they mean would not know how to use them. nice emoticon : it is a start

i will be looking farward to that i heard from someone that is small population of west
indians there is bund to be some single indian men there in riverside that 40 mile from me and that were the lovey man who gave me cookies lives. maybe i should move there

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[quote="Dhawal"][quote]
They certainly won't see you as 'just another person' that's for sure. No chance of getting a cold shoulder. Hugs - you will rarely see people hugging in India.
There are hardly any mixed people in India, it's a very homogeneous country, so they will definitely see you as different.

Married with hubby - awwwww, that made me smile this (^__________________^) much.[/quote

thats if am wandering if would they get interested just becouse am different. what are some of the mixes there?

thats a pretty big smile and that is so creative. i must of have brought some good memorys up. i have the knockers for doing that.

Actually I'm quite bad looking, total nerdy-looking guy .

Awww man, I feel like I'm witnessing a live love story. Like in the novels .

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Indian mixes are like North Indian and South Indian, one language or region with another, and even that is rare. India is still a very conservative society, most parents get upset if their children find a partner outside their community. It's a societal pressure thing.

That one is a Japanese style emoticon. I saw the extra broad one in a Korean movie.

See at 6:29 - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0harLpFvuR8

am getting the idea you romantic things. well if my romantic conquest is a sucess. i think it whould like an good story plot for a romantic hollywood or bollywood film, or better a novel i ussaly dont like romantic novels but i think this a winner. the movie or book will say the story of a young women trying to find love, when a mysterious man charms her. but unable to get any contact after one short meeting. she decides to move to the big city to better her luck in dating and goes on journey find the mysterous man she meet once. based on a true story.

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hmm ok. so no racial mixes like i am for example. just regional mixes.
coolest thing though since just learn about this from you. i know understand about North and South India regions. i looked them up. i think i can pen point were my grandfarther and his side of the family came from before they had moved to guyana. he is from southen India.

From what i heard about guyana is that the indians there were like that too a long ago. they whould only marry other indians. now a days almost everyone there now is open to mix marriges. i guess if India became less homogeneous there whould less pressure and more mixing.

even though i dont mined dateing someone who had his true heatage line from India. a non west indian,) i might have to deal with his side in family espeical if parents are nonwestern born. am afried maybe they might see me as different and might disprove of me. unlike indians from guyana were i might seen as non different and fine. i hope i will never be in this spot with his family if i end up with someone who is indian with indian hertatge

No, not really. In fact my wife says I'm very unromantic. But this is too precious! I haven't heard things like this since I was in college. I guess that's the advantage of being in touch with young people. You never forget what it was like back then!

I was under the impression that most east Indians around the caribbean region were North Indian (Bhojpuri). See the History section here - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indo-Guyanese . But it is possible that your grandfather might be South Indian. Maybe you can ask him or someone in your family.

India is slowly become heterogeneous (regionally, not racially), but it will still take a lot of time. The societal pressures are too strong. If you have time watch this movie, it deals with the same issue - http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLD645623E77858FF4

And yes, if you marry someone with a pure east Indian heritage, there are big chances of disapproval. Though some of the very westernised and broad minded parents would be more welcoming.

hmm i did not know that must indians from the west indies were of north Indians desent.( i guess you learn something new everyday) my grandfather died two summers ago so i cant ask him this. but i know he immigrated from india as child in to Guyana in the 50's or 60's. unlike most indians in west indies who immigrated many decades ago. his family was very poor india so i think thats why they moved.

lets hope there are more western open minded indian parents, but seeing i dont live in huge immigration area with huge cultural groups like new york city were more likey people stick to own culture and more resent immigrates. i whould more likey in my area run into more westernized open mined parents who are 2nd or higher generation american born indians

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Awwww you should do something nice for her like something unexpectedly romantic do you give flowers to people in India if so give her some or make a meal for her. or get creative

well welcome back to the free part time of the college student's love life. i guess some college students in india go process of finding someone to love. even though parent want them just to focus in school too, like those in america. i dont think most people understand we just want love too

30's is still young. my fave teacher in college is your age. he jokes about being 34 as old. he says things like when i was your age jokes.

knowing people older and younger then you is always helpful. older people are wiser and younger people just keep life going.

50s or 60s! Then there's got to be someone in the family who knows the state or region he was from.


Well then, let's hope you run into someone like that!

Hehe, I can't cook. There are many males in India who can't cook because they never needed to.

Ok, I didn't know that. I thought American parents wanted their kids to fall in love so that they would get married. Or maybe that was from some old Hollywood movie.

Yeah but it's not that young. Knowing younger people makes you feel charged up. There's so much raw energy, freshness, honesty and naivety. Older people could use some of that.

I think I will ask his sister. If I ever go back to new York city and I see her. I whould ask my great grandparents but I have never met them and maybe not living anymore. So I think my grandma or his sister will know.

Well I will be waiting for it there is many unknowns in what lies in the future in my life so I feel so waiting for it.

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Replace the cooking and just Take her out to eat ( do you guys do this in India) most men even in the US don't even know how to cook. They often do experiments with cooking or cook on a grill. Or eat packaged
food and have the women cook. How do men find something eat in India if they have cant cook for themselves.

You are right most parents here in US want their kids to find love while being in college But I suggesting there are also parents in US that want their kids only to focus on school not love too.

Since you have been on WP and have talk to some us maybe younger then you. Have you felt this charged from talking to all us " young people" I will keep this mined as I get older. To keep myself surounded by young people. It will sure keep me from becoming a cranky older person. And I seen this in life. Someone a NT I know work with in autism too. Is a teacher and advocate and she is about in her 50's has alot of life. I guess it's from those years working with autistic kids and my other autistic friends who in their teens to early
30's

Let us Indian aspies know when you find out about the region!

And I wish you luck for what lies in your future .