19 Mar 2007, 7:46 pm
Aspiegirl89
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21 Mar 2007, 9:48 am
Mandelbrot wrote:
Is life more difficult for Aspie women than for Aspie men?
Hello everyone just joined!
I have found from experience, that a woman who is socially 'incapacitated' has a much harder time than a man who has the same problem. Examples can be seen throughout society; it is not very acceptable for a woman to be direct, intelligent, rational, focused, obsessed/dedicated etc. Men find such qualities intimidating from a woman, and cannot compete with her as they do other men, so they ignore her and she is isolated from society (social groups).
NT women depend upon their social grace (that all-important yet confusing thing called body-language) and ability to manipulate to attract mates. I mean, I’m totally left in the dust.
A study found that on average, with every 15% increase in IQ, a man’s chances that he would marry increased by 35%.
For a woman, her chances of marriage and partnership decreased by 40% for every 15% increase!
I am a woman with high-functioning autism/Asperger's and I have found all of this to be very true!
What are your experiences?
Hello everyone just joined!
I have found from experience, that a woman who is socially 'incapacitated' has a much harder time than a man who has the same problem. Examples can be seen throughout society; it is not very acceptable for a woman to be direct, intelligent, rational, focused, obsessed/dedicated etc. Men find such qualities intimidating from a woman, and cannot compete with her as they do other men, so they ignore her and she is isolated from society (social groups).
NT women depend upon their social grace (that all-important yet confusing thing called body-language) and ability to manipulate to attract mates. I mean, I’m totally left in the dust.
A study found that on average, with every 15% increase in IQ, a man’s chances that he would marry increased by 35%.
For a woman, her chances of marriage and partnership decreased by 40% for every 15% increase!
I am a woman with high-functioning autism/Asperger's and I have found all of this to be very true!
What are your experiences?
Well if this is true, it must be bypassing me as, quite frankly, I couldn't care less if I was intimidating to men or not. If people don't like it then I advice them not to talk to me if they can't keep up with me
21 Mar 2007, 11:45 am
Aspiegirl89 wrote:
can you hook me up with your brother?? lol.
Are you over eighteen?
Too bad you live in CA...I really wish my brother could find a nice Aspie girl to spend time with...He's 39 (looks much younger, though), and has never even been on a real date. He loves the ladies (especially zaftig brunettes), however, and they seem to like him, even though he's oblivious to their flirtations. I remember years ago when we both went to Daytona (our cousin got married), and while strolling on the beach, girls would smile at him, say hello, and my brother either didn't notice, or only acknowledged them with a slight nod of his head and kept on walking.
I still marvel at the memory of those beach bunnies flirting with him, despite his wading in the ocean wearing his shoes AND socks (he can't deal with being barefooted).
Aspiegirl89
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21 Mar 2007, 12:11 pm
Hamster wrote:
Aspiegirl89 wrote:
can you hook me up with your brother?? lol.
Are you over eighteen?
Too bad you live in CA...I really wish my brother could find a nice Aspie girl to spend time with...He's 39 (looks much younger, though), and has never even been on a real date. He loves the ladies (especially zaftig brunettes), however, and they seem to like him, even though he's oblivious to their flirtations. I remember years ago when we both went to Daytona (our cousin got married), and while strolling on the beach, girls would smile at him, say hello, and my brother either didn't notice, or only acknowledged them with a slight nod of his head and kept on walking.
I still marvel at the memory of those beach bunnies flirting with him, despite his wading in the ocean wearing his shoes AND socks (he can't deal with being barefooted).
haha...I'll be 18 in June. Your brother sounds like the stoic fellow I'd like to date lol. Pity he's almost 40; if he were about 20 I'd be all over that in a second! What's he look like?
21 Mar 2007, 1:28 pm
Aspiegirl89 wrote:
haha...I'll be 18 in June. Your brother sounds like the stoic fellow I'd like to date lol. Pity he's almost 40; if he were about 20 I'd be all over that in a second! What's he look like?
Darn, you're still a baby! It *is* a pity -- selfish me wants a sister-in-law that I can actually relate to.
He looks like a cross between Lorenzo Lamas (without a tan) and Robby Benson, both of which I'm sure you're not familiar with -- they're hasbeen actors from the 70's and 80's.
Any interested WP females out there that live in Western New York, are not skinny, love reptiles, and are over twenty-one? Anyone?! I'll pay your travel expenses...
08 Sep 2015, 1:12 am
lastwish wrote:
Mandelbrot wrote:
NT women depend upon their social grace (that all-important yet confusing thing called body-language) and ability to manipulate to attract mates. I mean, I’m totally left in the dust.
as opposed to how I get girls by impressing them with my extensive knowledge of computers?
(swoons) Mmmm, talk hardware interrupts, OSI layers, TCP/IP stacks and C-style pointers to me, baby...
J/k. But in all seriousness, it was their intellect that first attracted me to my spouse many years ago and that has never waned. Some people really do find it (and a complete knowledge of Tolkien's universe) hot. Oh, and by the way? *Neither* of us has much in the way of social grace, we're both introverts, NVLD, and can't stand people who manipulate prospective (or actual) mates. Finding that person can happen, but sometimes it takes years & slowly building a friendship and trust. Still, you will never find them if you give up completely, you know? In the meantime, enjoy the parts of life you enjoy and grow into a more complex, fulfilled, confident person. That too can be quite attractive.
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08 Sep 2015, 1:30 am
08 Sep 2015, 9:51 am
Mandelbrot wrote:
Is life more difficult for Aspie women than for Aspie men?
Hello everyone just joined!
I have found from experience, that a woman who is socially 'incapacitated' has a much harder time than a man who has the same problem. Examples can be seen throughout society; it is not very acceptable for a woman to be direct, intelligent, rational, focused, obsessed/dedicated etc. Men find such qualities intimidating from a woman, and cannot compete with her as they do other men, so they ignore her and she is isolated from society (social groups).
NT women depend upon their social grace (that all-important yet confusing thing called body-language) and ability to manipulate to attract mates. I mean, I’m totally left in the dust.
A study found that on average, with every 15% increase in IQ, a man’s chances that he would marry increased by 35%.
For a woman, her chances of marriage and partnership decreased by 40% for every 15% increase!
I am a woman with high-functioning autism/Asperger's and I have found all of this to be very true!
What are your experiences?
Hello everyone just joined!
I have found from experience, that a woman who is socially 'incapacitated' has a much harder time than a man who has the same problem. Examples can be seen throughout society; it is not very acceptable for a woman to be direct, intelligent, rational, focused, obsessed/dedicated etc. Men find such qualities intimidating from a woman, and cannot compete with her as they do other men, so they ignore her and she is isolated from society (social groups).
NT women depend upon their social grace (that all-important yet confusing thing called body-language) and ability to manipulate to attract mates. I mean, I’m totally left in the dust.
A study found that on average, with every 15% increase in IQ, a man’s chances that he would marry increased by 35%.
For a woman, her chances of marriage and partnership decreased by 40% for every 15% increase!
I am a woman with high-functioning autism/Asperger's and I have found all of this to be very true!
What are your experiences?
That's really interesting what you said about the marriage and IQ thing, it could be flawed though. Kind of like how "the average American has one testicle" lol but not taking into consideration that the other half don't have any testicles
I think being an aspie we all got it kinda tough in the social department and the dating department. I find intelligent women sexy, if I can have an intellectual debate with her even better, then I know she's both smart and willing to voice her opinion. I can see where some men might take intelligence as a threat though, but that probably only goes for women who are high up on the chain of social and career status. I would have a hard time dating a women who was surgical doctor for instance, because I would feel completely stupid and worthless compared to her.
As far as aspies go though I would think women have more of an edge because of the fact that most interaction is initiated by the male. I've only had a few women come up to me and start chatting me up/ sizing me up...usually we gotta put the work in IMO
08 Sep 2015, 1:09 pm
