The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Hi there all you other creaky aging aspies, I have been unable to find time to go thru the 799 pages of this thread to search for the answer to my question and keyword searching tends to be turned off...So, I apologize for butting in and possibly asking redundant questions but here I go - nothing ventured, nothing gained:

Have any of you experienced having the clumsiness come back like you maybe had in childhood?

I'm asking not just for myself but my 70-something year old mum. Until learning more about Asperger's in recent months, I used to just think she was fussy and couldn't stand loud noises and bright lights because she was old, but she's ALWAYS been that way. In the last few years her motor coordination esp on her left side has deteriorated and she has not had a stroke that might have done something like this. It's the lopsidedness of it that causes me to ask and also makes me wonder what I can expect (I'm only in my 40's) as I age and if I work at it can I keep the neural pathways more in shape. My motor-clumsiness in adulthood improved with diligent exercise. Any case histories here of keeping those pathways functioning well? Thanks all!

Hi...I dont know any "elders" with AS in person,so I am only theorizing.(I am 43)I do know that my own coordination has decreased over time and it seems normal to me that this would be true of NT and AS.I recall watching older people dance when I was in my teens and twenties and thinking...how can they be so uncordinated,stiff and have no rhythm?Now I dance like that(so,I dont dance in public,lol)


Strokes?It is not that uncommon for older people to suffer from mini-strokes.My father did for several months and we had no idea until he passed on.You could talk to her doctor about blood thinners,small dose asprin.There are also medications,vit,herbs that are supposed to increase blood circulation and ThiChi has helped many with coordination and circulation.

I do think that I am not more aspie then when I was younger but learning about aspergers has just made me more aware of traits I just thought were "me"...now I have a name for it.I have recently felt that I have regressed in some ways but I attribute that to recent increase in trying to learn new skills.I believe this may have diverted some of my attention/energy from the "acting NT" skills I have learned and the over all anxiety of change has increased some of my sensitivity to environmental stimuli.


Hope that helps?

Would you like some cheese with that "whine".....

I'm back to complain about the Aspergers Invisibility Syndrome.

I know I am self consumed.I force to respond to other people because I have learned that it is what people do and you will be austricised if you dont.I get it,it makes society function.That said,it doesn't come natural.Not that I dont often think about others but just forget to say what I am thinking(or am afraid of saying something wrong,so dont say anything).

MY mother lost no time in letting me know how selfish and self-centered I was since they adopted me at 5,so I have had years to practice but it's still hard for me to remember to respond to others.I didnt learn to ask others for help until I was 26 and they taught me how to do it when I went through CD treatment...perhaps I now abuse asking for help?It's hard for me to understand the balance of give and take,even if I understand the concept.

so here is what is going on.....

I belong to the Etsy forums and there is one section for asking for critiques from people.I have given some suggestions and not insulted any one(I dont think).I asked for feedback from others and keep getting ignored...out of two requests...I got 3 responses.Most people get a min of 10-30 responses but I literally begged for responses three times yesterday before anyone responded.Today,I tried again,assuming it would be a new crop of people and got no responses...nobody else got no responses.It is really hard to figure out what I am doing wrong.I try and keep my threads short(I know that is a problem here)but it hasnt helped....

The conclussion is....people really hate the stuff I make and dont want to hurt my feelings or lie.I am doing something to piss people off.They can smell a freak through the internet and dont want to get contaminated by my freak germs.

Soooo...You guys know me.Whats wrong with me?Why dont people like me?This isnt a pity party,I just want to understand what I am doing wrong.

cluelessly yours....

Krex my love! You probably are clueless about how we feel about you here.

You are loved by me. You are wise and your words often lead me to see things in a different way. Your explanation of empathy, for example, is worth pondering.

On etsy you are assuming that you are not liked by lack of responses. You probably feel disappointed about responses and reading too much into it.

Keep going with your craft. I have seen your site and I love your armlets and anklets. I will buy the same for my very fussy imaginative daughter when I have the cash. She has very definite tastes and wants to make a statement by wearing original stuff.

You are an artist. You are allowed to be a little strange in the real world. I doubt though that you come across as strange. Take heart.

Thank you nannarob.I just dont know how to understand the lack of response from people.I did finally get a few responses but am still overwhelmed and confused by "rules" I dont think I can ever learn.As my therepists have always said..."I think to much"(and that was an criticism),but what else is there to do?

I will be glad to make a "made to order" cuff for your daughter when ever you are ready.I have many colors of leather and suede,any color bead and lots of different types of wire and stones(I spend way to much money on supplies when I joined Etsy)
I was actually thinking of "belly dancers" when I made the ankle cuffs...I love that gypsy type stuff.

There is probably some rule about not breaking into the 800 zone without a good video...but I am a rebal,so...

Just found this thread on my Etsy site and thought......Are aspies coming out of the woodwork or am I just looking to hard for evidence of them?Seemed odd that there would be so many nerds in one thread????

any opinions?



http://www.etsy.com/forums_thread.php?t ... 375&page=1

A Kindred Dino-Spirit Topic

Hello, Nannarob. I will never stop the title summaries I write at the beginning of each post. Never worry.

Thanks for the support. Toxic relationships should never be tolerated. I have no regrets at not grieving for my parents death. Instead, long ago I grieved and healed when I realized I was never going to have the relationship I wanted and needed from them. I have tried not to make their mistakes.

Tony Attwood has a game he plays. It is 'Spot the aspie'. He says that aspies concentrate in engineering departments at uni (in fact in any department in unis), as computer geeks, in libraries. Why not on craft sites!

Sneaking in to get the first post on page 800. (I suspect I'll be in bed before the page fills up, unless I can think of something amazing to say.)

Mhowheaty.

Well geeeezzzzz...........

Someone has to post on the 800th page. Where is everyone?? The most social bunch of Aspies on the planet come to the cafe apparently. HEEELLLLLLOOOOOOOO......... HEELLlllllllooooo........ heelloooo......llloooo.....llooo...lo

Don't make me post another Youtube... Lau will be most annoyed with me.

Popping in briefly, before going back to bed, where I've been all day. Hi, everyone!