The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

But not having those emotional ties would increase someone's lonliness.

I think it needs to be a balance.

Yes, I agree that there must be a balance. A trade off. But there is so much to devote one's life to in addition to other human beings. There are many passionate people who live in various degrees of seclusion but who make an impact on the world by improving or enhancing the lives of others through their work - for the environment, for example, or through the creative arts, animal rights activists. I think that what I am trying to say is that there is so much need in the world for love and compassion, and even if one does not have "family ties" there are other ties that one can devote one's life, love and skills to. One way of "relating" is not better than or superior to another.

J

• Jacquin's Postulate on Democratic Government No man's life, liberty, or property are safe while the legislature is in session.
• Jenkinson's Law It won't work.
• Jim Nasium's Law In a large locker room with hundreds of lockers, the few people using the facility at any one time will all have lockers next to each other so that everybody is cramped.
• job interview, n. The excruciating process during which personnel officers separate the wheat from the chaff -- then hire the chaff.
• job placement, n. Telling your boss what he can do with your job.
• jogger, n. An odd sort of person with a thing for pain.
• Johnny Carson's Definition The smallest interval of time known to man is that which occurs in Manhattan between the traffic signal turning green and the taxi driver behind you blowing his horn.
• Johnson's First Law When any mechanical contrivance fails, it will do so at the most inconvenient possible time.
• Johnson's Law Systems resemble the organizations that create them.
• Jones' First Law Anyone who makes a significant contribution to any field of endeavor, and stays in that field long enough, becomes an obstruction to its progress -- in direct proportion to the importance of their original contribution.
• Jones' Motto Friends come and go, but enemies accumulate.
• Jones' Second Law The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on.
• Juall's Law on Nice Guys Nice guys don't always finish last; sometimes they don't finish. Sometimes they don't even get a chance to start!
• justice, n. A decision in your favor.

It helped me but it also took away my happy more-or-less. I was far more serious and really didn't feel like myself.

Lemon, Ritalin stimulates the part of the brain that is underactive in people with ADHD. The constant motion is caused by the person's system trying to stay stimulated on it's own. When the Ritalin stimulates this area, the rest of the body can calm down and stay focused.

Now I am on an anti-anxiety pill that has had the desired effect, without taking away my happy.

Which, ironically, anti-depressants do.

ADD is often overlooked in women, as female ADDers tend to show less hyperactivity, and less impulsivity than male ADDers. In women it oftentimes manifests itself as constant daydreaming. That is the type that I mainly have, with some added restlessness. There are 9 to 11 different subtypes (which may be merged into each other, or separated out as distinct disorders in the future).
You may have ADD, or a degree of it, if you find yourself in this list provided by Dr. Edward Hollowell, MD, world renowned ADD expert (with my added notes in brackets):

"The core symptoms of ADD are excessive distractibility, impulsivity, and restlessness. These can lead both children and adults to underachieve at school, at work, in relationships and marriage, and in all other settings. In addition, people who have ADD often also exhibit:

Advantageous characteristics:
. Many creative talents, usually underdeveloped until the diagnosis is made
. Original, out-of-the-box thinking
. Tendency toward an unusual way of looking at life, a zany sense of humor, an unpredictable approach to anything and everything
. Remarkable persistence and resilience, if not stubbornness
. Warm-hearted and generous behavior
. Highly intuitive style

Disadvantageous characteristics:
. Difficulty in turning their great ideas into significant actions
. Difficulty in explaining themselves to others
. Chronic underachievement. They may be floundering in school or at work, or they may achieve a high level (getting good grades or being president of the company does not rule out the diagnosis of ADD), but they know they could be achieving at a higher level if they could "find the key".
. Mood often angry or down in the dumps due to frustration
. Major problems in handling money and making sensible financial plans
. Poor tolerance of frustration
. Inconsistent performance despite great effort. People with ADD do great one hour and lousy the next, or great one day and lousy the next, regardless of effort and time in preparation. They go from the penthouse to the outhouse in no time at all!
. History of being labeled "lazy" or "a spaceshot" or "an attitude problem" by teachers or employers who do not understand what is really going on (i.e., having ADD)
. Trouble with organization. Kids with ADD organize by stuffing book bags and closets. Adults organize by putting everything into piles. The piles metastasize, soon covering most available surfaces and space. {ADDers have to keep things out in the open and visible. If they put them away, they forget about them entirely. Called OOSOOM: out of sight, out of mind}
. Trouble with time management. People with ADD are terrible at estimating in advance how long a task will take. They typically procrastinate and develop a pattern of getting things done at the last minute.
. Search for high stimulation. {this is seen more in males} People with ADD often are drawn to danger or excitement as a means of focusing. They will drive 100mph {161kph} in order to think clearly, for example.
. Tendency to be a maverick (this can be an advantage or a disadvantage!)
. Impatience. People with ADD can't stand waiting in lines or waiting for others to get to the point.
. Chronic wandering of the mind, or what is called distractibility. Tendency to tune out or drift away in the middle of a page or a conversation. Tendency to change subjects abruptly.
. Alternately highly empathic and highly unempathic, depending upon the level of attention and engagement
. Poor ability to appreciate own strengths or perceive own shortcomings
. Tendency to self-medicate with alcohol or other drugs, or with addictive activities such as gambling, shopping, sexualizing, eating, or risk-taking.
. Trouble staying put with one activity until it is done
. Tendency to change channels, change plans, change direction, for no apparent reason
. Failure to learn from mistakes. People with ADD will often use the same strategy that failed them before.
. Easily forgetful of their own failings and those of others. They are quick to forgive, in part because they are quick to forget.
, Difficulty in reading social cues, which can lead to difficulty in making and keeping friends.
. Tendency to get lost in own thoughts, no matter what else might be going on.

Q: Aren't most people somewhat like this?
A: The diagnosis of ADD is based not upon the presence of these symptoms - which most people have now and then - but upon the intensity and duration of the symptoms. If you have the symptoms intensely, as compared to a group of your peers, and if you have had them all your life, you may have ADD. An apt comparison can be made with depression. While eveyone has been sad, not everyone has been depressed. The difference lies in the intensity and the duration of the sadness. So it is with ADD. If you are intensely distractible, and have been forever, you may have ADD."
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I also like the following advice from Dr. Hollowell to people our age:

"The best way to change a life of frustration into a life of mastery is by developing talents and strengths, not just shoring up weaknesses. Keep the focus on what you are, rather than what you are not. The older you get, the more time you should spend developing what you are good at. In the long run that's where you will find fullfillment."

Hope this helps, Lemon!

Last edited by Chuck on 01 Mar 2008, 9:19 am, edited 1 time in total.

A flock of Js topic

(Great info, Chuck. How kind of you to provide this to lemon, who I am sure appreciates it. )

What is Lau up to? His post is like a needle in a haystack.

Priceless...

Once again pricelessly funny, Lau!

Feeling a little reflective today.


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Blessedmom, that stirred up all sorts of emotions in me. Thankyou.

It's 3 hours later and I've been for my walk. So now I can tell you the gossip that is all over our local front cover.

Gasp! Steve Irwin's father Bob, who started the Aussie Zoo as a snake and reptile park, has split from the zoo. He will not say why.

Terri Irwin has inherited everything, which is worth $(aus)26 million. The fear is that she is putting more effort into commercial rather than conservation ventures. The government and other groups have subsidised the Zoo for conservation projects.

I don't think the public has noticed yet that Steve is dead. The plea is: What would Steve do? Evidently the Zoo was in poor shape financially and she was the one who turned it around.

I thought this was my old boss Mr. Burton's law.

Me: I'm going to start doing _____.
Mr. Burton: It won't work.
Me: I'm already doing it.
Mr Burton: How's it working?
Me: Fine.
Mr. Burton: Oh.



I could write all kinds of Mr. Burton laws, but if you read Scott Adams' cartoon Dilbert, and are familiar with the pointy haired boss, you know Mr. Burton. (who was promoted to district supervisor according to the law: "He who is the biggest dumba$$ rises to the top".)

Hello,

This is my first ever Youtube video. I don't know where I went wrong - the volume doesn't work!

Anyway, this is UbbyUbbyUbby who turns 8 in a few weeks.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=NoP2aU-rXxs

The boys have big plans for the Youtube videos they are going to make.

Helen

THANK YOU!! ! It is so cool to get a glimpse of your kids! My youngest son was like that, and I loved it when they were that age. So full of life and active!! !

I bet it's incredibly expensive to run a zoo - especially one done right, with proper habitats for the animals, and good veterinarian care, and visiting hours that keep the best interest of the animals utmost, and not what's best monetarily. I wish the Aussie Zoo the best! I hope the matter is resolved in a way beneficial to all.

I think you should see about getting UbbyUbbyUbby some vitamins. His energy is frighteningly low.