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I'm 14 years old and I'm not sure if I have Asperger's.
I don't have any means to find out if I do have it. My parents just think I'm very antisocial and I lie to them about my social life - I don't really have friends, but I lie to them and say that I do have them so that they won't call me antisocial. I can't talk to them that I suspect that I have Asperger's because they don't really care about my mental health. I go to a school with a very challenging curriculum and it's hell for me there because of the amount of groupwork that has to be done.

Are you aware of the other diagnostic criteria? Are they familiar to you?

In my case, there was intervention when I was four and 14 but as the condition was not official, everything was very indefinite... I suspected it when I read of the diagnostic criteria in recent years and it was made official later on.

I'm aware of the other diagnostic criteria.

I live on my daily routine. I have to wake up by a certain time and sleep by a certain time, or else I get quite panicky for example. I don't look at people in the eye when talking, which makes doing verbal presentations in school very awkward because I'm just staring at my hands or making weird gestures with my hands. There's a lot of other stuff too.

I think you should actually go and talk to someone (your parents) about this, if you lock it all up inside you it could cause a major meltdown sometime.

Since I've been (re-)diagnosed by psychiatrist with asperger I feel a lot more in peace with the habits that I have because of it. Knowing and admitting you have (social) difficulties can help you to find some kind of way for dealing with them.

Also aspies tend to see stuff black and white, more on the negative way. Did your parents say you are antisocial or do you think yourself that way? Also are you sure they don´t care about your mental health? They are your parents after al.

If your parents actually said that you are antisocial I think you should explain the situation to them search on wikipedia for an article about asperger and show it to them. Even better would be to go to an psychiatrist and ask his or hers opinion.

Whatever you do don´t feel ashamed of the way you are, there are so many people dealing with these problems out there.

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Does this very challenging school happen to have a guidance councellor? This kind of mental health intervention is one of the things they are supposed to do. The guidance councellor at one of my daughter's schools ran a group therapy session for kids who had lost parents due to death, for instance. Make a list of why all the characteristics that make you think you have AS and present it to your councellor. They will help you find a way to approach your parents. Remember, just because the councellor hasn't approached you doesn't mean they don't care. They may simply be so overworked that they haven't had time to see to any kids who haven't been specifically brought to their attention.

Regards,

Patricia

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I agree with Patricia about talking to a guidance counsellor. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents first, then be proactive about your own mental health and talk to teh GC. That's what they're there for. Good luck