hey KJC,
finding the positive side of life only depends on you. being aspie or not. loneliness for example. the feeling is the same for all, it matches the word, but you can enjoy your own loneliness and use it in a positive way, or you can decide to be depressed with it. in my case i love the feeling and i use it to create. as a friend of mine use to say, my best creations came up when i was lonely. so this is positive for me. also i don't feel the need of being that social. (sometimes just for work issues, so i give it a try).
we only have a different way of being, of thinking. and even if "normal" people doesn't understand us usually, it's a life's challenge to make ourselves understandable by others. and positiveness brings us more patience fighting the terrible anxiety. make yourself busy doing thinks you like, fulfil yourself and focus on that. it will also help to build our lack of self- esteem. welcome to WP :)