26 Sep 2009, 2:53 pm
After reading forum posts here for several weeks, I finally decided to join in. 
I have found a lot of very helpful information here, and I thank you all for sharing so much.
My husband has AS and, at the moment, our marriage is going through a very rough patch because of it. Communication has broken down to almost nothing, and our life has really become more that of flatmates than the loving couple we were not so long ago. We are in the process of seeking support and therapy, but there doesn't seem to be much available in our area. I've read every book I can get my hands on, but I really need someone to *talk* to.
Since I don't have AS, I guess that makes me an NT, but I must say have a lot of issues and quirks that overlap with Aspie ways of being: sensory defensivness (especially with noise and touch) that can become quite extreme when I'm under stress, "special interests" that can get obsessional (though to nowhere near the degree I see in my husband), and a much less than average interest in social activities. However, I DO like to spend some time with my friends from time to time, and occasionally even meet new people! I also have no problems with the expression of empathy, sympathy, or any other emotion. In fact, I usually express way too much!
What I'm hoping to find here on WP are some other wives of Aspies to chat with and exchange ideas with. I have searched, but didn't find a particular forum for that sort of thing. Can anyone point me in the right direction? PLEASE, let me also be clear in that I am looking for a sort of Aspie wives SUPPORT GROUP--not a place where hurt, bitter women are just insulting their husbnds and slagging of their exes!
Thanks for listening. I feel a huge since of relief just knowing I'm not alone in this anymore!
26 Sep 2009, 3:15 pm
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richie
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26 Sep 2009, 7:09 pm
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sinsboldly
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26 Sep 2009, 9:11 pm
I have found a lot of very helpful information here, and I thank you all for sharing so much.
My husband has AS and, at the moment, our marriage is going through a very rough patch because of it. Communication has broken down to almost nothing, and our life has really become more that of flatmates than the loving couple we were not so long ago. We are in the process of seeking support and therapy, but there doesn't seem to be much available in our area. I've read every book I can get my hands on, but I really need someone to *talk* to.
Since I don't have AS, I guess that makes me an NT, but I must say have a lot of issues and quirks that overlap with Aspie ways of being: sensory defensivness (especially with noise and touch) that can become quite extreme when I'm under stress, "special interests" that can get obsessional (though to nowhere near the degree I see in my husband), and a much less than average interest in social activities. However, I DO like to spend some time with my friends from time to time, and occasionally even meet new people! I also have no problems with the expression of empathy, sympathy, or any other emotion. In fact, I usually express way too much!
What I'm hoping to find here on WP are some other wives of Aspies to chat with and exchange ideas with. I have searched, but didn't find a particular forum for that sort of thing. Can anyone point me in the right direction? PLEASE, let me also be clear in that I am looking for a sort of Aspie wives SUPPORT GROUP--not a place where hurt, bitter women are just insulting their husbnds and slagging of their exes!
Thanks for listening. I feel a huge since of relief just knowing I'm not alone in this anymore!
Here is a section of WrongPlanet that has a lot of threads about married Aspies and people married to Aspies. http://www.wrongplanet.net/forum32.html
welcome to WrongPlanet, cookie28!
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