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I've recently been told by my pdoc that I do exhibit some HFA traits. Yeah. I agree. Personally from all I've read I think I fit the Dx of AS but I do not have a formal Dx.
I can tell you that at 17 I was Dxed with schizoid PD. And now at 34 I'm being told there are some HFA traits. Given the overlap of symptoms, this makes sense. But I'm not sure which one is correct or it could even be both I guess.

I don't like being around people. I don't have friends. I'm horrible in social situations. I can make eye contact but it doesn't always feel comfortable to do so. I do get obsessed about certain subjects and want to learn anything and everything about the subject...for example... birds. I want to be able to ID them and know various things about how they live, etc. I am clumsy as all get out and always have been. I didn't really have friends as a kid. Have always been seen as a loner and kind of odd. I remember they said that I had an 8th grade reading level in 1st grade. I totally had that "little professor" thing going on. But I suck at math.
I have some sensory issues. Noise drives me absolutely batsh*t crazy. Bright sunlight can make me cranky and sometimes the tag on my shirt can send me into a tizzy. There are other things that I'm sure I'm forgetting.

I also have a Dx of BP. So who really knows what's going on with me but since I suspect AS I thought I'd join here and see what others are going through.

Welcome to WP!

I'm new to all of this as well. I have had a female friend with a masters in psych who has been telling me for years now that I'm an aspie, but didn't care. Now I have just recently went on a date for the first time ever and I'm 29. Well I didn't mess up the date, but it only took a month for it to all fall apart until now where she never wantws to speak to me ever again.. or so she says... we'll see. She was lieing to me and even though it was on small stuff I couldn't let it go until she told the truth. Well she told the truth but doesn't want to speak to me as I dogged her to get the truth. So I figure I should look into this a little more. Problem now is I want the diganose before i dive into this too much, and psychologist after psychologist have been telling me.. I can see it, but it's so weak I don't want to give you the diganoses, which is just being frustrating.
I too have the social issues big. Even when around my own family my heart rate increases just a little bit, but those outside of the fam.. then I'm sweating even with friends, but I've just learned to deal with it, so i still hang out with friends. Even though it's nerve racking I still have fun... watching them do things... I don't really do much with them... i sit and watch them as they talk and interact. yet on the other hand my job as a rehab tech has be running groups and having 1 on 1 talks... I do it not because I'm comfortable doing it but because i like helping others. It makes me feel good about myself. The eye contact thing I thought I was doing well with that, but people will be talking to me, and stop and say "why are you starring at me?" so I guess I don't have that down yet.
The focused on a subject thing... i get that with tv shows but only that I have to tell others who haven't seen it in detail even if they tell me I don't want to hear it... oh they are still going to hear about it. I was always seen as a loner, and never seeked out friends they would come to me and I'd talk to them and then at some point they would commonly ask.. "hey are we friends?" which I'd reply to with a.. "I guess?" The sensory thing... I've got that with how I sleep at night. No matter what time of the year it is I need to have the weight of the comforter, and blanket, and need to roll myself up in them for myself to sleep. I tried to sleep with just the sheet, but can't. In grade school the other kids would come to ask me random questions knowing I would either have an answer or if I didn't I'd go home that night and find one. The sun always bothers my eyes. I have transitional lenses and it still bothers my eyes. So yeah we have things in common, and maybe i am an aspie, and maybe you are too.

Well I'm married but he's about the only person I can stand to be around. And he doesn't always "get" my behaviors but we get along alright. I don't think he wants to believe that I really do have these issues.

I can't sleep with just a sheet either. I need to feel some weight on me to fall asleep. Never thought much of it but I guess it could be a sensory issue thing.

I also have the transitions lenses and it helps. But I generally always feel better on an overcast day rather than a bright sunny one.

My BIG issue is with noise. I get so irritable when there's a noise that annoys me. And it's usually something that other people wouldn't even notice or care about. Like when my neighbor mows his lawn, that constant low frequency rumble that penetrates the walls of my house can drive me bonkers. The best my pdoc has been able to come up with is the suggestion to wear earplugs. Not too keen on that. Maybe some noise cancelling headphones.

Sometimes I get irritable for no obvious reason at all. It's a horrible feeling but I don't know if that would have to do with AS or BP. I probably spend most of my time in a BP mixed state which is pretty uncomfortable. Medication is helping but it doesn't fix everything.

Welcome, welcome!

Welcome greetings to the WP community, beetle812.

Yeah noise is an issue for me as well, but just not much of one. I hear noises like the hum from lights while others don't but it doesn't really bother me that much... it just makes it harder to concentrate.
I don't know how things we're for you when you were dating him, but from this man's point of view I think women have it easier with that. Men are expected to say things like you have beautiful eyes, etc to show interest which is more direct. Women seem to be expected to just show interest in what the guy is saying, and do those flirty little things and for me that stuff just goes right past me. The interest in what I'm talking about just makes me think you want to hear more about the topic, and the flirting... that's more like... "what are you doing?" "oh is this flirting?" "oh if it is you should have just told me that you were interested in me."... that normally doesn't go over well
Ah yes the overcast day... they are so nice.
Getting irritable for no reason... not really a thing I do, but they say every aspie is different. they just share some things in common so I know I couldn't say if that could be an aspie thing or not. I on the other hand will get really depressed for no reason about 2-3 times a year where i don't even want to get out of bed. Is that aspie like? I don't know.

^ There's a lot of Aspie women on here (myself included) that will tell you it's not easier on the women. I think it about equals itself out.

Anyway, welcome to both of you. I hope you enjoy yourself here. There's definitely enough to read to keep you absorbed for awhile.

My apologies to beetle812. I seem to have inadvertently turned your welcome to WP into a talk that's more about me. I haven't done one of these welcome posts myself so at some point I will do that, and for those following my talks I'll try to incorporate some of this in to that thread... whenever I get around to it, but this thread is suppose to be your welcome thread so I'll just end on welcome to WP.

To WrongPlanet!! !

i have a thirteen year old son. that is on the spectrim. i would love to find some one he can relate to...and maybe help him find his way...he loves science and has a gift for it......i would love to meet other moms or people that can help me understand him better and understand why he does some of the things he does...we normaly have a very good comunications but sometime he cant seem to tell me why he does this...also would love to now how to help him brake bad habbits......please if there is anyone that can help us a little please contact me ...

Welcome to WP!