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Seen through concepts of asperger, long stretches of my life now
seem more understandable than embarrassing. After a couple of
much-regretted school-reunions, the message was forcibly brought
to my attention. I had no idea they found me so strange, but they
did. Small wonder I was not a social success.

Life is not without its compensations. I nurse a love for math, music
and languages. Interests that for want of companions have been
a kind of company.

BTW, Lisac is Serbian for fox, which is something of my
totem animal.

J

Welcome aboard the Wrong Planet, Lisac57.

Welcome to WorngPlanet, and welcome to my time warp.

That's why this site exists. It's got bookoos of people like yourself. . .

Welcome to the WP

hi Lisac.. welcome to WP...

My son was diagnosed with autisim 10 years ago (when he was young he is 10 now.) My first thought was poor him. As I have seen him grow, I have seen more and more of my own life repeated.

I was all just such a waste. I didn't deserve to be abused just because I was different. All because I am genetically incapable of f**king useless smalltalk.

P.S. I probably should have started a new thread - sorry, but I am glad to have found you, and Lisa I have the perverse ability to destroy a "friendship" with a 5 minute conversation.

At least you were brave enough to attend your reunion. I didn't even bother.

How did you get a diagnosis for him at that age? I read they can diagnose children young as 2 and 3, but at newborn thru age 1?

Could it be that modern medicine is discovering things at a much earlier time?

Aspie Forty - you are right the diagnosis was officially handed down at about age three. My wife and I were in denial for a good long while. We were trying to get to the root of a speech delay, other factors included flapping hands and lining all of my coins up in a row sorted by size. These are behaviors he has grown out of (mostly).

I edit it in my mind, because after four other kids I see that from the get go he was different. He was laden with sensory issues and was very different from my other children. We always referred to it as him and the other three (we just had the new addition). We were blessed latter with twins and two babies were easier than he was.

We were shunted into the special school district to a school that was intent on dissecting the child we loved and wanted to protect. We now home school and just use the school system for those therapies that we cannot provide (i.e. OT). He has actually been done with those for a while but we are still looking for social skills training for him.

We were lucky to have a good pediatrician who had an Autistic Step son. She actually started talking about it shortly after he had turned two.

He did start talking, and he is now for the most part your everyday 10 year old boy. I will not stand by and let him be crucified like I was.

Hello Lisac57, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!

To WrongPlanet!! !

I FEEL YOUR PAIN... I really really do. I hope you know, somebody really cares!! !

I still remember your posts, and the word "crucified" stuck out in my mind.
My apologies that I didn't show more empathy (and sympathy) toward the level of extreme frustration you were expressing. I sensed you were looking for some empathy... and I heard you loud and clear, but got sidetracked by questioning/establishing facts -- never heard of a child younger than 1 being diagnosed Aspergers.
I know, and I feel what you're saying -- totally, because I was "crucified" so much during my life, it becomes easy to empathise, with what I had done to myself. Being Aspergers though, sometimes its like "writers block" trying to verbalize a comforting word... verbalizing what you feel without being too overwhelming or seeming, "insensitive" and "disconnected".

Anyway, I've been there and done that... lots of people on Wrong Planet have probably been given the wringer treatment by people in society, some, more than others. Some were lucky and had supportive, loving parents... and others of us, just weren't that lucky :

Dude, I was accused twice in my life of being "demon possessed" and the first accusation (both times, the accusation was hurled by my mother's friends). Talk about crucified for your Autism? You know what its like to get an exorcism done to you? Luckily... my demon permitted me to speak to the preacher since he was so polite, and I told him "If this is what the Kingdom of God is like, I'd rather burn in hell." Then proceeded to ask, "Why do my parents condemn me for smoking cigarettes when my Dad is attending every week and a baptised member and smoking cigarettes in secret?" Well, the preacher dismissed me, and sorry to disappoint but there was no Latin blaspheme that came from my lips... and no white lights flashing from my eyes... but my Dad was disfellowshipped from the WWCG. I felt terrible for him, but that's how the cult operated.

Just because you're "different" (I didn't realize I was THAT DANG DIFFERENT) -- over-reacting a bit I think) -- and because I had some Van Halen posters on my walls (which were burned) naturally.

That's when I was around 15 years old.

I was raised in the Worldwide Church of God. The cult eventually fell apart.

The W.C.G. Talmud
The following list of do's and don't's was compiled by Ambassador graduate, Robert Gerringer. It represents some of the customs and traditions of the Worldwide Church of God up until about 1973. We're sure it will bring back a few memories. The editors are not, of course, necessarily recommending or endorsing any of the following:
Do not listen to preachers who teach contrary to the W.C.G. doctrines. ... Never go to a psychiatrist. ...
www.hwarmstrong.com/ar/Talmud.html

Yup... the first time I was accused of being "demonic" was around 15 and directly followed an unreported case of statutory rape, my mother REFUSED to get counseling for me, because the Worldwide Church of God forbid psychological counseling. They were a type of Pseudo-Judaism... and hated Christianity.

Okay... and the 2nd time I was accused of "Demonic Possession" by my mothers friends, was about age 30 (1999/2000) when I got really curious and Aspergering over the history of the Bible and stuff, and asking too many questions... I'd been a Deist for years... and rejected the Bible and religion, and didn't accept much on blind faith... I needed and wanted to study about theology -- so I asked the preacher what to do. He suggested a big wholesaler called "Christian Book Distributors" which has scholars resources and everything imaginable, but the preacher warned me, it's not good to ask questions or discuss too much knowledge in the church -- (Oooooops, Aspergers people take deep enthusiastic interests in their topics of choice and don't shut up about them)... he warned me in advance of what would happen... some people don't like questions or knowledge. so, I was accused of Demon Possession TWO TIMES in my life because I acted different than certain people.
It's not so lonely though. Those same people who accused me of demons, fired that preacher for being too modern and allowing "more upbeat gospel music" for the young people in attendance.

People sure will crucify you for being Aspergers. They'd burn you at the stake, if the law permitted it.

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Welcome to WP!!