One day I woke aspie

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I've always done well in school. I've always done well/at least went at work.

Now I'm aspie and my personal view is all askew and I don't know what to think.

How will this affect my future.... I knew I had weird responses, but I thought they were weird for not understanding me... now when I have weird responses to things I think it might be me.

How do we new aspies get back on track?

Okay, it's a little bit like learning a new language and becoming bilingual. And also the world is a bigger place because people are different. And that can be viewed as a big positive.

And the whole Myer-Briggs, INTJ, I think that's the one that has a lot of overlap with Aspergers, but the thing's not etched in stone. So, in theory 16 different kinds of people, and just take a deep breath, okay, the world is a little bit more interesting place.

It takes some time to achieve "balance" again after a diagnosis. For myself, I found that I spent a lot of time reviewing events that had occurred in my life and looking at them through new eyes; realizing that maybe it was my perceptions that had been skewed. I believe that there is a grieving process that occurs and you need to give yourself time to go through the stages. I myself had a diagnosis in March 2010 and I'm just now really getting to the acceptance phase.
What I've realized as I've gone through the process is that knowledge is power. I am essentially the same person with the same strengths that I had prior to the diagnosis, but now I have some new insight and tools to deal with some of the areas of weakness. I also have 3 boys on the spectrum and it has really helped me to have insight into their actions/personalities.
One example from today was seeing an old "acquaintance" that I used to be dazzled by, but also hurt by. This woman is very outgoing and a lot of fun. She would always act very friendly and tell me that we had to get together for shopping, coffee etc. but these visits never seemed to happen when I tried to arrange them. For me as an aspie, if I had said something like that to someone I would have meant it, saying it would be like a commitment for me. Now that I am more aware of how neurotypicals are, I realize that this was the same way she spoke to everyone. I had a different perception as to the degree of our relationship, I saw her as a friend, she saw me as an acquaintance. With that knowledge, I don't have to beat myself up and wonder what is wrong with me, I don't have to try to be anyone I am not, I can just understand that for her, we are acquaintances and move on and not brood over this.

I have found a book called "A Strange World - Autism. Asperger's and PDD-NOS: A guide for parents, partners, professions carers and people with ASD's" by Martine F. Delfos to be a wonderful book for helping to understand ASD's, it is written with great understanding and affection for those of us on the autism spectrum.

That's good Insight - practical - and I'll look into the book. I have so many characteristics, though - how I got to this age without being dx I'll never know. I don't see that changing. I become very anxious when dealing with others - even though I appear outgoing.

Since I don't know when I'm being weird - as my daughter says (who tested me - she's a specialist) how do I stop.

i'm afraid everyone's going to read it on me and say "oh you're asperger's)... it's misunderstood, I'm sure.

But thanks so much for reponding!! !

Welcome aboard the Wrong Planet, fellow-traveler harobed.

Isn't it the point when dx with something that's possibly counter to our best interests to use the dx to get treatment to "stop' the "ill" behaviours?

In a way I want to just revel in my dx and say what I truly feel like to allow my intense anger to just flow and be able to explain to others that I don't give a hoot about their feelings or their situation....... but then I'll be tarred and feathered...

So that's what I meant.

H.

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