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19 Jan 2011, 6:59 pm

Just thought I would introduce myself. I have a 15-year-old son that has been diagnosed with Asperger's, and my wife and I are doing our very best to cope. We see an autism specialist once a month, but that just doesn't seem to be enough. He has lied, cheated and stolen his way through the last 4-5 years of his life (since my divorce from his mother), and we're at our wits end as to how we should deal with him.

To complicate things, he has 1 older sister, and 2 younger brothers from my first marriage. A step-brother from my wife's first marriage, and a half-sister that is both of ours. I have custody of all of my children, and we have shared custody of my step-son.

My poor wife is going to have a nervous break-down if we can't get something figured out really soon. He will not lift a single finger to help himself, with anything. The only thing that we can count on him for, is to not do what he was told to do. He has an actual check-list that he goes down, every single day, so that he makes sure to do things like brushing his teeth, and making his bed, and half the time he just checks them all off without doing them. I'm always asking him what he's done to make sure he remembers to do the things he's asked to do, but I always get, "I don't know" in reply. I don't know how to get him to be proactive. I can't seem to figure out how to get him to want to improve on his own. If left to his own devices, he would sit on his bed all day doing nothing. Grounding doesn't seem to work, and we've had 'discussions' with him until we're blue in the face. After years and years of this, he's finally wearing us down.

help!

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19 Jan 2011, 7:07 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet. I hope you find some of what you are looking for here

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19 Jan 2011, 7:09 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

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19 Jan 2011, 7:40 pm

Hello!

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19 Jan 2011, 7:44 pm

drickanderson wrote:

After years and years of this, he's finally wearing us down. help!

Hi, and welcome to the website! I'm sure you'll be given some helpful tips from other parents on here, as well as people with Asperger's. I hope you and your wife can work out something with your son, because I can't begin to imagine how desperate you must be