Undiagnosed 23yr old woman in NY

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Just recently figured out that I probably have Asperger's. I was worried that I was just finding similarities when there were none until I directed my husband to look over the signs of the disorder and he was like that is 100% you. I don't know why my parents never picked up on it, I guess they just figured I liked being alone more then socializing. I haven't yet brought it up to my parents that I think I might have aspergers and I don't know if I should, I am worried they will just think its in my head.

It is, by definition, in your head.

Yes, I meant I was worried they will think I am making it up, or using it as an excuse. My mother has never been very good at admitting I am different, she always hoped I would complete college and get rich and support her in her old age, because I was the "smart one" in the family. So far I have tried completing college 3 times and I have yet to succeed. I always end up dropping out when I get overwhelmed.

If by "New York" you mean "New York City" or close, and you want a diagnosis, I can recommend a very good specialist. It turned out to be much harder than I thought to find someone here with experience with adults.

No I live in Upstate-Almost-Canada NY and will be moving to Western-Almost-Pennsylvania NY in the coming year. I would be interesting in getting diagnosed and maybe getting some counseling to deal with some of my anxiety issues. I would like to one day complete college and so far that has been impossible for me because I get overwhelmed so easily.

It took me a while to complete college for the same reason. Then I realized that I might do better if I worked and just took 6-9 credit hours per semester. The difference that made was just amazing! I not only finished college, but with really good grades. Yes, it takes a bit longer that way, but at least it can be done that way. BTW, I also took summer classes, but only 3-6 semester hours. As a side benefit, it also helped out with the costs a lot to be able to spread out the expenses a bit more.

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Instead of coming out and saying it to your parents, you might let them make up their mind. You can say to them "I saw this article about AS and they listed these symptoms. Do you think I have AS?"

From the reaction you received then you can decide where to go from there.

Give you a chance to see if they would think it is all in your head or maybe there is something and they never made the connection.

Given that you're 23 and married, how significant is it that your parents agree/validate/understand -- or are even made aware of it? That's not just a rhetorical question; I'm genuinely curious. Granted, I'm older than you are. But, we're both adults. And my parents haven't played any role in this at all, really.

I just want to tell them about it because they can help me validate whether I have aspergers or not. They know better then I how I behaved as I child.

Well, if you do seek a diagnosis, there is a good probability that they will want to interview your parents at length. If you are afraid of their reaction, go into the conversation armed with the information you may need to diffuse their fears. If you think they may feel blamed or threatened for not 'seeing it sooner', go in with info from Tony Attwood. he very clearly states in 'Aspergers in Girls' that girls often go undiagnosised because it can be hard to detect as anything other than a bit of immaturity. I also recommend 'Aspergirls' by Rudy Simone. If you've gotten this far in life without a DX then there is a good chance your expression of symptoms is mild. Just be ready to answer their questions to the best of your ability.

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