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HI! I am the mother of three beautiful kids! My oldest daughter has Aspergers. Her dx is ASD at the moment although she has been tested and scores Aspergers on all the tests! She is very challenging and loves to learn new things! She pretty much tries to run our house if I am not careful. She is a master at manipulation! She does not listen well to my rules which worries me since she is only 5! It seems that every day she comes to me with something new she has discovered! Although she is on the spectrum I am never ashamed of her behaviors. She is a riot! She makes me think about things I would have never thought of alone! She has taught me so much about life already! I do not wish to change her in any way. I love everything about her! I wish that I could be more like her, unfortunatley I am not! Her fascinations are:Horses, maps, chess,letters,computer games,and she loves the tv guide! Lately she has been whispering things and when I ask her what she is saying her response is,"This information cannot be shared with humans!" This upsets me a little b/c I feel left out of her world. Any suggestions on how to get in to her universe with out destroying her peace of mind and taking away form her beautiful way of thinking? Thanks for the help! I am interested in learning from all of you!

Hi! Wow, three kids 5 and under....you're a busy lady! You mentioned your oldest has an ASD dx? ASD stands for the umbrella of Autistic Spectrum Disorders, and covers quite a lot of ground. It sounds like AS, or Asperger's Syndrome, is her dx possibly?

It certainly sounds like you are doing a great job of encouraging her interests. Keep in mind that while some things she says and does may fall under her dx, sometimes she's just being a 5 year old girl. So far you haven't mentioned too much in the way of problems - sensory issues, rigidity in planning, meltdowns, which is great. They may show later, they may not.

Enjoy her, follow her lead, show interest in what interests her.

Here where we live they will not dx her Aspergers because of her age. They wait until 7! I dont know why? Well yes she has many sensory issues: Likes tight clothes, esp. a belt, cannot tolerate water on face, sensitive on her head and feet. Clumsy and uncoordinated. No fear! There are lots more! Anyhow my other two are aslo showing some symptoms of ASD one is talking and the other is not! The no talking thing bothers me since Ashtyn talked at 9 mos. and walked at 7 mos. I have never had a delayed child till now. I am just trying to figure it all out? I am glad I found this place!

Bless you! You have just revived my spirit.

I'm totally new here, too but I've been pretty busy. This place is full of really cool people.
I have a son, 7 and a daughter, 5 who both have the same diagnosis as your daughter. We learned about my son 4 years ago and suspected my daughter's PDD also, but she wasn't diagnosed for another year. My son is due for more eval this coming year to further confirm a previous AS diagnosis. As I learned about all this 4 years ago I learned about myself, also. There is no doubt in my mind I'm somewhere on the spectrum, but I'm not worried about me, since I've made it this far "alone". The reason I say you've revived my spirit is that, so often, I see parents in the psychs' office devistated by the discoveries that they've all made and wanting to know how to FIX their kids, right now. You, apparently, are a stronger type of person than I've commonly encountered and you deserve to be praised for your courageous attitude.

Welcome! There's lots to learn here.


BTW, You also will have a chance to brush up on your Latin as you continue your education, because of all those capital letters you've been exposed to, recently. :^)