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Hi, I'm new and probably long over due. I am a stay at home mom of 4 year old triplets, all three are on the Spectrum. Jack Jack is classic, La La is functioning (I think we will find out she's more Aspie) and Syd...OY!...my little Syd... She is high function, self injurious, uber co dependent = very high maintenance - and the reason I occasionally have to pop an anxiety chill pill. My eldest child was diagnosed as ADHD in 2nd grade but our family doc is now stating that she has other autistic tendencies. She is harder to deal with than Syd and there is 18 years diff!

My reason for joining this community is to see what others go through or are dealing with and how they work it out. I don't have a support system and it's nice to be in a place where everyone has a common interest. I enjoy publishing the comical side of raising the triplets on facebook but my FB friends don't relate to the sometimes down side or frustrations one experiences with raising three with such diverse needs.

I would not know what to do with myself if my triplets were not auties. It's so enlightening and enjoyable to experience things through their eyes. I have never had regrets and I never throw pity parties. I think my triplets are funny, genuine and highly intelligent. With that said, my ONLY heartache is my girl, Syd. I have to find a way to get through to her. She is so codependent on certain people - it sucks the life out of you. I feel so bad for La La at times - the good thing is that when Lauren is over it, she easily separates and refuses to be Syd's emotional hostage. My husband has adapted to it but he has mastered the art of adding to his "hat" collection, keeping him in a constant "places to go, stuff to do" motion...UNLESS we are doing something fun, away from the house for the day. My moments of Zen are during my hospital stays. I have had some health issues in the past two years - Carcinoid Cancer. To my husbands credit, he has stepped up in the past two years and encourages me to wander for as long as I need when I leave to grocery shop.

Sydney takes a very low dose of Resperidone. We finally had to put her on it after she "wolverined" La La. She has major meltdowns with no specific trigger - most happen with any kind of opposition and transition. She favors punching herself in the stomach and her head. She is also a victim of abuse at the hands of her very first teacher - an ESE teacher when she was 3. The teacher lost her cool - head butted her then slammed her down so hard her head slammed into the metal lunchroom door, resulting in a concussion. It's been a hot mess legally...schools take it personally when they are held responsible, especially when another child in that class recv'd a head injury 2 weeks previous and they brushed it under the rug. Syd is a full and part time job and I feel for the other kids. SO, anyone who has an ASD child with SID, OCD, ADHD, ODD, ect. ect. ect...I need ideas on how to curb her "I have to be the center of your world...and your world...and yours....and you over there...and you, and you, and you" and "we do things my way or everybody pays"

Thanks for listening! I look forward to reading and getting involved on here. I'll probably utilize the blog as well.

Hello, hope you get along on WP and if you need help with your child there is a parents "department" on the list of subjects

I feel a little awkward, since its only my third day here, but here goes.

Welcome aboard! I really enjoyed reading your first post, and I hope our shared experiences give you what you want for yourself and the kids.

My goodness, yes. I only raised one violent, autistic daughter and often thought my life was hell. Later I found out one son and I had AS. Anyway, you can friend me on FB under Lelia Rose Foreman.

To WrongPlanet!! !