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Hi,

I am new here. I just finished graduate school, and I work full time.

I have a parent who is, I think, Aspie. She works in a social setting (retail) but outside of work, and neighbors, she's usually either TOO outgoing and friendly, or completely awkward and shy. I have always felt like I can not trust her behavior when I bring friends home or when we go out to a festival or a family gathering. That being said, she is an awesome, loving mom and always has been. This is just one of the faults, or one of the things that makes my life difficult. She is very empathetic and usually understands me well, but, there are some things where I have emotional needs and she completely ignores them, denies them, acts as if they are meaningless -- because they are not the same as hers. It is like she has a blind spot there.

As for myself, I am an only child and so I didn't socialize at home like I would have if I had brothers/sisters or close family/friends. When I'm around a bunch of people (college dorms, work, school) I always seem to find a good group of friends. But I have a hard time on my own, making friends. In the community I live right now (I moved here for work), I don't have any group to fall back on, so I've been very lonely. I have tried talking to people and meeting people, but they seem "dense" compared to other places I have lived. They don't understand me, and they don't want to receive my friendship... I am very friendly and outgoing, but it is like they don't see/feel/realize that I want/need their friendship. I am not sure if this is my problem, or if it's just this particular area and culture.

I could be a little bit Aspie too. I just felt "at home" here when I started reading some of the posts.

Also, I'm gay, just in case you wanted to know.

Cheers!

Welcome to WP!

Hi Tim! Thanks for the hello.

Good lord... I found the RDOS quiz and I scored a 134/200 Aspie and 93/200 neurotypical. Is that really high?

While taking the test, I thought to myself that my mom would probably score equal or higher.

But also -- couldn't some of the questions just lead us to a conclusion that I'm right-brained, or, that I'm a bit intuitive? (Don't want to say psychic, I'll just say intuitive)

You intrigued me with the test. I got 164/200 aspie and 43/200 NT.
Sorry for the fact you are lonely - probably due to differences all around. Also as you probably know:
The more you don't need friends - the more you find. or visa versa.
Truthfully I hang around here because people (&me mayb) on here (WP) have an interesting way of writing and seem interesting anyway.
Truthfully I don't care what people do with other people - as long as it's consenting. By the way I'm straight if you wanted to know - but I don't like being touched so it's largely irrelevant.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welkome to WP

Mick

Hi.