Struggling to Understand..

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Hi all, I am new here and according to kbabz, user 7201 . This is my third post.

I am mom to a 10yr old boy who I have seeking help for since he was 2.

At the time, I knew something wasn't right, I saw red flags, not just hyperactivity, but poor speech development, motor control, other things as well. One he got pre-school age, and went to head-start, he was tested and entered into a pre-primary program where he spent two years working on this speech, and was diagnosed ADHD and emotionally impaired in the meantime.

He moved onto Kindergarden, and we moved from Michigan to Illinois, and the first doctor we saw down here (pediatrician) when I explained that I thought there was something more to it, not just ADHD, told me that they 'diagnose them all ADHD, and if something shows up later, they deal with it then'. I switch doctors, and found the only psych in the area that took medicaid, immediately. That was 3 years ago.

Still trying to have him properly dx'ed, his 10 minute-every-other-month psych is stuck on ADHD and OCD and when I saw the other Dr in the same office to have him re-eval'ed, HE said same thing, after refusing to look at all of the paperwork I brought in from alllll of his past teachers and everything, and booting us after 1/2 an hour.

I've never been so frustrated in my life.

He doesn't have ANY friends, and says he doesnt WANT any friends.. I can't believe that's true.. not at 10. He gets STRAIGHT a's, reads above grade level, and his teacher told me that part of his social problem is that the other kids have a hard time communicating with him because he verbalizes above age level. Also though, his words come out slowly, and he can only speak complete thoughts.. like he can't just answer yes or no. (Ex - Did you drink all of you juice? "I drank all of my juice..) He doesn't play with the other kids, he kinda just plays 'around' them.. he bounces from one obsession to the next.. anyways..

I CAN'T SEEM TO GET PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND why it's important for him to be dx'ed properly. His sister Meg(6) is ADHD. At first I thought they had that wrong tooo, but it was a matter of the meds needing to be changed, her mean streaks have gone away till the meds wear off, and the heartbreaking thing is, she bullies HIM!

Last but not least, I have little Kenzie (10 months), and if we're lucky (my fiance of 8 years and I) she won't be afflicted by any of this crap. (He is also ADD)

I am so thankful everyday that there are meds out there for people with problems like us. When I was first trying to get help for Brendon, before I knew I was bipolar, was against meds, I was scared they were going to screw him up. They made a difference for the good. I realized there was something wrong with me when it hit me that when people get angry, as a general rule, they don't break down doors, and throw things, and put other people in danger.

Thanks to my meds (when I take them faithfully) the rest of us stay glued together pretty well and the house manages to stay livable.

So, you all seem like a pretty nice bunch. I found this place by looking around for places to help me understand some of the thigns that Brendon does and what and how he thinks. Everytime I can gain at least a little perspective, it helps me communicate with him a little better.

Thanks for havin' me

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

That is an interesting story you told us there. I think you will fit right in here. I hope you come to a fair conclusion soon.

I hope you enjoy posting here!

thanks..

eh.. too much post mebbe, eh? I guess I kinda got into the habit of just putting everythign on the table because i get tired of people finding out things down the road and bein' like 'oh, so you're kinda messed up, huh? well we don't hang with pple like that..'

hope the post didnt come accross as me thinking my kids were problems or curses to me or anything.. we're prolly more interresting the way we are than if we didnt have these issues. The differences keep us on our toes.

You're welcome!

Hello ShariLynn, welcome to WP.

I hope you enjoy your time here and find it helpful.