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Hi all!

I'm Will, live in the PNW with my wife and daughter. I have looked around this site/boards but never posted. I am only recently coming to terms with the fact that I am an Aspie. This all came to light because of my 4yr old daughter. My wife and I have always known she had SPD, but just got get diagnosed less than a year ago. She is in occupational therapy for it, but on top of that we started noticing that she was a bit off when it came to the social world (so am i). i started to read about AS because of her, then while reading and getting obsessed! I noticed patterns in my own life, and things became more clear why things have happened in my life. I started thinking maybe this is what has been going on all these years. The puzzle pieces fit. I to the Aspie quiz and scored high (a few months ago), then i took it a few more times between then and now. All scores well above 150, current score being
Your Aspie score: 173 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 47 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie

It has been really hard for me to deal with, as I seek out a diagnoses for my kiddo I am now searching for myself. Is it worth it? I don't know.
Also support has been lacking, and seems to be a complete disregarding of who I am or may be. How can I approach the people I know best and that know me best so that I can get the facts I need to figure this all out. I am trying to make big changes in my life, which is very scary and difficult. I really feel an explanation would help. I am now 30yrs old and have bounced around different jobs a lot. The only ones I did well at is when I didn't really have to deal with people or the politics of the work environment. When those times came up I ran and hid from them. I have avoided a lot of things in my life because I was afraid of the social interactions with people. I have only truly had one friend, despite being "popular". Most others took advantage of me or bullied me. I don't really know where to go from here. I hope to enroll in school soon, but don't know how that will go. I feel like if I get an answer that if I'm aspie or not that will help me succeed. I want to show my daughter she can do anything she wants if she puts her mind to it and works hard. It's important as a father that she knows just because she isn't like NT's she can do great things! Thank you all.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Hi Willhud13! Welcome to Wrong Planet! Check out the many interesting and helpful forums here. You are among friends here at WP!

A formal diagnosis for adults is only really needed if you are seeking treatment or therapy paid for by the government or an insurance company, or if you just want an official verification of your condition. However, now that you know about your daughter's condition, you can do more to help her while she is young. It is harder for those of us who learn about our condition later in life. By the time we are well into adulthood we tend to be set in our ways, so changing our life patterns through treatments and/or therapy is difficult and sometimes impossible for us. Still, there are some things that may help, so it is up to the individual to decide how deeply they want to look into treatments, and how much of it they want to take.

Thank you for the welcomes!

I'm looking for a diagnoses for myself for two reasons, verification for myself and I guess proof to others of what I deal with. In my mind I feel if I have a stamp of AS that will help to get better support from people around me. Close family and friends that are important to me tend to be the type to ignore, or blow off things like this with a common remark why do you want a label..?

Also as I explore to get into college I feel it will help me there in being able to get proper help so I succeed. I know I have dyslexia and possibly other learning disabilities, so if I can get it all figured out then maybe I can get help at the school of my choice. My plan is to get my degree in Zoology and then go on to graduate school (hopefully). The biggest goals of my entire life, and some of the scariest.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

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Mick