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Asherah
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09 Nov 2012, 9:27 pm

I find myself unwilling to admit to having ADD unlike many of my friends who have it, most notably my boyfriend who has come home from work before saying that the rest of the world has autism not him, why does someone with great social skills like he does have ASD?

A bit about me, I want to mention I work for a psychic hotline and I have a B.A. in creative writing from a school I'm not going to mention. My closest friends these days left over from school days have ADD. They also happen to have great social skills. I mean my social skills aren't the problem. I'm just really depressed over feeling like I have to admit to having a problem when I don't.

I'm flashbacking to a few times people tried to call me out as ADD and I didn't want to admit it. I didn't want to give in to their cruel satisfaction of labeling me, treating me as different and making me the person they can laugh at or mistreat. I am looking for a job right now, trying really hard to find something. The trouble is that I know I do have bipolar, and when I get depressed, I get quiet. I can't talk as much. I need to vegetate for days on end. I'm self-employed and trying to start a small business for writers.

I'm also publishing a book. One of my characters in the book happens to have ADD. The book is also about indigos, starseed, and crystal children. I spend a lot of time on a website about starseeds...,and where there are plenty of people who have ADD on that website too. I'm not going to tell you anymore than that, about starseed that is.

I'm asking people if I really have to give in to the need to tell people or can I just keep it a secret the way I successfully keep so many secrets. I have a genetic condition no one else in my family has but I look a lot like my dad, which is really a peeve of my borderline mother. I have a desire to become a therapist and get an M.S. in psychology. My problem is that I see people as whole individuals and not people with problems. My medications are Zyprexa 2.5, ativan,0.5 4X a day, and geodon 80 mg. I'm functional on meds, extremely dysfunctional and abusive off meds, and I have a therapist and a psychiatrist.

I plead with people not to label me. Just stop assuming. I would have failed in my life mission if I allow anybody to take away my humanity.


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09 Nov 2012, 9:49 pm

Hello, welcome to wrong planet! Your book sounds very interesting, I myself enjoy creative writing. You find all sorts of people here!


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09 Nov 2012, 9:49 pm

a therapist who sees people with their strengths would be quite welcome in today's recovery-oriented world. i am a social worker. seeing people as people rather than a diagnosis is an important part of the way i do business.



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09 Nov 2012, 10:19 pm

Well, seeing that your post went from not wanting to admit you have ADD to working for a phychic hotline to starting a small business to writing a book to keeping secrets to seeing a therapist.....- some might see that as ADD.

PS- ADD is not a bad thing plus a diagnosis is only what you make of it. You are still you no matter what label someone wants to place on you. :)


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09 Nov 2012, 11:27 pm

NoGyroApproach wrote:
Well, seeing that your post went from not wanting to admit you have ADD to working for a phychic hotline to starting a small business to writing a book to keeping secrets to seeing a therapist.....- some might see that as ADD.

PS- ADD is not a bad thing plus a diagnosis is only what you make of it. You are still you no matter what label someone wants to place on you. :)



I don't care if you think that, what I care about is not being put in positions where people expect me to admit I have something. I would expect that from someone being nice or not being nice. I would prefer not having to be forced into admitting I have something in order to get someone to be nice to me although I must say, your post seems perfectly respectful.


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09 Nov 2012, 11:28 pm

cathylynn wrote:
a therapist who sees people with their strengths would be quite welcome in today's recovery-oriented world. i am a social worker. seeing people as people rather than a diagnosis is an important part of the way i do business.


I wish I had the time to study social work as well. I don't know if that will be possible in this lifetime. You chose to see me as a person, thank you. That's invaluable in today's world where most people reduce themselves to a diagnosis.


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10 Nov 2012, 2:38 pm

Welkome to WP

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10 Nov 2012, 4:47 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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14 Nov 2012, 1:27 am

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
Welcome to Wrong Planet!


Thank you for your warm welcome and thank you to CockneyRebel as well. I appreciate you.


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14 Nov 2012, 12:22 pm

Hi and welcome. :)



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14 Nov 2012, 12:30 pm

Welcome to WP!


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