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15 Nov 2012, 12:45 am

Hello fellow forum users. I'm a 23-year old male from the U.S. A few doctors I've been to agree that I have Asperger's Syndrome, but since my parents weren't aware of the disorder when I was a child, I was never diagnosed. I have always been quiet, speaking only when spoken to most of the time unless I am comfortable enough with the person. I've never made many friends and even now I really don't have any. It's not like I don't want any, I just feel like no one is interested and I struggle to communicate well. I tend to feel very awkward after having a conversation with someone, repeating the conversation in my head to see if I said something wrong or to find out what I should of said instead.

I question though if I really do have Asperger's, or if they're just giving it to me as a label to explain why I'm so...."different". I do have some of the characteristics: I can have obsessions with certain parts of objects. I have a routine from day to day (like time to go to sleep) that if I break, it messes up everything. I'm also kind of OCD with clocks; If they're not set at the exact time it bothers me very much.

One question I do have. What exactly does it mean when they say people with Aspergers lack empathy? I like to think that I do have some of it. If someone is telling me a sad story, I can pick that up. If someone's face is red and their eyes are teary, I can detect that are sad. On the flip side, if someone is smiling, they are obviously happy. Is this what they mean, or am I misunderstanding?

Well, I think that's enough for now. Thanks for any comments, and have a good one.



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15 Nov 2012, 1:28 am

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15 Nov 2012, 4:37 am

Hello and welcome to WP

Most aspergers do not lack empathy or derivates of it. What people mostly lack is the ability to see other peoples emotions or they lack the ability to express themselves in feelings.
Try looking for threads on empathy here on WP, there a loads of good explanations e.g. here http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt203776.html


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15 Nov 2012, 5:15 am

I have lots of empathy with animals, but not the slightest with humans.



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15 Nov 2012, 9:34 am

I think helles described it perfectly.

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15 Nov 2012, 10:57 am

Welcome to Wrong Planet. :)



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15 Nov 2012, 12:53 pm

Hi! Im new too! Welcome :)



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15 Nov 2012, 2:27 pm

Thanks for the replies everyone, and that thread is a good read; Lots of information. Thanks again guys :)



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15 Nov 2012, 4:21 pm

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15 Nov 2012, 11:38 pm

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