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I have lived with my mother for too long, I never knew I had a diagnosis of PDD-NOS and what is in my opinion Asperger's until just recently. I have been through a whole lot of crap through High School and College, never really knew what was wrong with me until recently. I've only had a couple close friends. I can talk fine on the phone and internet, and face to face conversation I'm fine with, but groups are very difficult, as is eye contact. I've seen other people socializing with no problems, and am angry and frustrated over things I've missed out on in life. If I had just been in an Asperger's or socializing problem as a younger person I believe I would have close friends by now. It aggrivates me to no end, my parents finally put me in a socializing group, but it costs 60 friging dollars a week, and my mother has been complaining about the cost (and I didn't even know when I talked to the group leader alone that it would cost my family another 100 dollars each time). Then I went to an Aspen meeting a couple times (they're only once a month in my area too), but never found anyone there that would invite me to anything, just this one guy I exchanged e-mail with for awhile.

I'm 21 years old now, only had one fling with one girl in my entire life, and I am getting sick and tired of mass rejection.

I also believe I have another problem I've been going to meetings for and talking on the phone with some people about a little bit, but I'm not sure if that or the Asperger's is the biggest problem.

Anyway, I had to get that off my chest to some people who might understand the socializing aspect of my life, cause I can't identify so well in the other group (who's meetings are also free and all over the place).



Oh yeah, my interests are fantasy books, video games, and role-playing games (though I only managed to find people to role-play with in College and most of them treated me like crap), music (stuff like CNSY, the Doors, Pink Floyd, but also stuff like Elliot Smith) I can play the drums a little bit, I do decently at school but find it very difficult to find work cause I have few personal references or life skills, I've only done work like pushing carts and pumping.

So is there anyway I can get advice or help from someone? I live in Central New Jersey, United States. Peace.

Socializing is one of the topics that we all wrestle with. I'm 50, married 17 years, and the Missus and I rarely socialize. I talk to my boss for 8 hours a day, and that's it. The other day I was mentioning our neighbor who told me he had just joined the first club ever in his life. (Oil painting club) She then asked me to ennumerate the clubs I've belonged to ... Ahem ... Two ... Personally I find it disappointing and frustrating to talk with most people. But if you want to be more social, find any organization that does charity type work, and join up. You'll meet people, and get to do good deeds. You might even meet a nice NT girl who is very interested in helping people.