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Hi. I am 25 years old and I have Asperger Syndrome. I am originally from Russia. I came to USA when I was 14 because my mother had a very lucky invitation to have a job here at the USA in the school for the deaf. I am pursuing my Ph.D. in physics at the University of Michigan. My biggest concern at this time is complete inability to make friends -- I don't even know anyone's name and don't have a single acquitance. This makes it very hard on me because I feel ostracised, especially when I study in a restaurant and see how everyone smile and talk to each other, except me. Anyway I guess I said enough for the intro. It is nice to get to know you guys. If you want to know anything more about me, feel free to ask:)

Hello there.

Don't want to start off on a downer, but you've not exactly ingratiated yourself with other board members with your first post by the look of things..... A change of style might be advisable, me old mate.....

Welcome to WrongPlanet, Roman. I suggest you check out the board rules before making further inflammatory posts - I have had to remove your other thread. Go here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... pic&t=1510

Dunc

Okay I am sorry for that other post. It was a joke. I was just bored and wanted to get attention. By the way I am Jewish myself, although I believe in Jesus.

I didn't think that post was very funny. especially considering your jewish. You need to think long and hard on what you decide to joke about. Writing inflamtory posts about Jews isn't my idea of a joke.

Okay even if you don't see that its funny ... lets put it this way I had a class to go to, I didn't have a whole bunch of time to see what I wrote. I just wanted to post *something* in order to make sure my account has been activated. The choice of topic was completely random ... it was an accident.

OKAY CAN WE JUST FORGET THE FIRST POST AND MOVE ON? THIS PARTICULAR THREAD WAS AN INTRO. i WAS LOOKING TO GET TO KNOW PEOPLE AND MAKE FRIENDS. IT WASN'T MY INTENTION TO BE BASHED FOR SOME *OTHER* THREAD IN DIFFERENT SECTION. WHAT WAS THE PURPOSE OF EVEN BRINGING IT UP? TO ALLIENATE ME FROM YET MORE MEMBERS? WELL YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW ME. I AM A VERY DEEP, THOUGHTFUL AND INTELLIGENT PERSON. DUE TO MY ASPERGER I AM CLUMSY. SO I CAN'T PLAY SOCIAL PING PONG. ACCIDENTALLY I BIT MY LIP. OOOPS, I STRIKE OUT. NO ONE TALKS TO ME ANY MORE. BUT DO YOU REALIZE LIFE IS MORE THAN A PING PONG? I AM NOT A ROBOT. I AM A HUMAN BEING. AS A HUMAN BEING, WHO SUFFERS FROM ASPERGER, ACCIDENTS CAN HAPPEN. AND SUPPOSE I AM A SAINT. HOW WOULD I POSSIBLY BE ABLE TO MAKE UP FOR IT ONCE NO ONE CARES ENOUGH TO TALK TO ME. LIKE SUPPOSE RIGHT NOW I WANT TO MAKE FRIENDS. HOW CAN I POSSIBLY DO IT ONCE YOU HAVE TURNED THE FRIENDLY INTRO THREAD INTO THIS STAFF? YOU CAN'T JUDGE BOOK BY BOOK COVER, AND THIS WHOLE FIRST IMPRESSION THING IS VERY SHALLOW. YOU CAN'T JUDGE THE HUMAN BEING BASED ON INABILITY TO PLAY PING PONG.

THATS EXACTLY WHAT NT-S DO TO ASPIES ALL THE TIME. I WEREN'T ATTACKING ANYONE PERSONALLY. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW ANYONE. I WAS JUST BEING ME. THATS JUST THE WAY I AM -- SOMETIMES I MAKE AN ACCIDENT. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW ANYONE'S NAME. I SIMPLY WROTE IT DOWN TO PLAY "COMPUTER GAME". HOWEVER, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CHOSE TO ATTACK *ME*, PERSONALLY. THATS THE WAY NT-S ARE. THEY SOMEHOW ASSUME THAT SIMPLY *LOOKING* INAPROPRIATE IS SOMEHOW LESS SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE THAN DELIBERATELY OSTRACIZING A *HUMAN BEING*.

NOW, CAN YOU PLEASE DELETE THE OTHER REPLIES SO THAT THIS THREAD CAN BE A FRIENDLY INTRO ONE?

I understand. Making friends for me is relatively easy. It's keeping them that's the hard part. It used to be: I sit by a person, we get to know each other, we become great friends, the friendship lasts about 3 or 4 weeks, then I make a big mistake (usually yelling at them because of outside hardships) and the friendship dies and we become enemies. Now I just avoid most NTs with this idea in my head: "If they really want to be my friend, they'll approach me and ask to be my friend."

You should have no problem making friends here. I have a few friends here at WP and many acqaintances.

I never have alienated anyone in my life. Alienation takes a severe lack of moral stamina. I would like to welcome you to WrongPlanet, and I hope that you feel better. Oh, and I don't think the previous posts were meant to be a personal attack (that would be hypocrisy).

Chris

Hi, Roman. Don't worry about the original thread you posted too much. It doesn't seem like you were trying to offend anybody. Anyway, I hope the time you spend here in the future is a bit less hectic than this first day has apparently been for you. Welcome to wrongplanet.net.

Well, as a person who have Asperger, don't you realize it is possible to allienate people WITHOUT meaning to? Like say f-l-a-g and it sounds like f-u-c-k. How did you manage not to allienate people despite your Asperger? I was told my asperger is very mild I am on mildest 0.5%. And yet all other aspies somehow make friends, or at least acquietences. Well at least its safe to say that there is no other aspi who allienates 99% of people they talk to on the very first time; and there is no other aspi who doesn't even know people's names. In my case I can't even go much further than the step 1 since I allienate people right when I forget to say hello or good bye and then they aren't talking to me any more.

What I meant is I haven't ever alienated anyone in my right mind. I always try to be welcoming, and unhostile, but people assume I'm alienating them because I am pre-occupied with something else. But I have these fits of rage due to sadness in school society, and then I seem to say or do things I would never do in my right mind. I don't even realize the bad things I have done until later when that person acts so mean to me.

For example: One day during school pictures, I wore my National History Day pin(I got first place at the Regional competition again) to school, and it fell of during class pictures and I looked and looked and was unable to find it! I was so mad and so sad and then a mean girl named Tori came up to me and wouldn't move out of the way so I yelled at her: "Get out of my way, h*****!" No one heard it but her, her nearby friend, and my Science teacher, Mrs. Gallemore. She heard it and I didn't even realize I had called Tori the bad name until Mrs. Gallemore told me she heard it and that she didn't want to hear me speak it ever again. And I was clueless.

These things happen all the time!

Chris

Well in my case it doesn't get to the point of a fight over something or whatever. As I said I don't know anyone's name, so I don't have anyone to fight with the way you did. When I walk into the room and appear too clumsy they are already not talking to me. No one ever approached me, even to say hi.

Hi Roman,

We should chat sometime. I'm a Ph.D. student at Penn State studying information sciences and technology. It's my first year of the program. I'm 24.

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