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First off to any administrators who are confused that I made two account, I realized I didn't want to use my real name, mainly because I'm afraid of anyone (especially employers) finding out about me here. Go ahead and delete the first account.


Hi. You can call me Carl. I have Asperger's. I have had an incredible hard life. However, reading the posts here I see most people lived pretty similar lives to me.

I dropped out of the 8th grade. I got beat up all the time. Whenever I'd get beat up Id get detentions. I didn't know I had asperger's at the time, and the school assumed I was a trouble maker. I dropped out and played videogames for several years. To this day, I have an irrational anger at my middle school principal. I can't get over this anger. I am angry that she is a respected member of the community, and I am an outcast. I need to get over this. It drives me insane when I think of her. I am far more angry at her than any of the kids who beat me up. I googled them, and they are all addicts, criminals, and deadbeats now.


However, also I have a messed up family life. My mom has been married 7 times. Many of the guys were abusive. She is currently with another guy who seems like a prick, but thank the Gods I don't live there anymore and have to deal with it. My dad killed himself. I have two brothers who are both addicts. I have a sister I haven't met who was adopted out of the family.


After dropping out of school, and playing video games for a few years I went to community college. However, I had a mental breakdown and started sleeping 15 hours a day for several years. However things started happening. I decided to go to a support group for people with mental disorders. I met my future wife there, my first real girlfriend. She has attachment disorder, however I get along with her better than anyone I know. She also has epilepsy However, Im gonna be honest. Relationships are tough. Sometimes I feel really bad when I would rather be alone than with her. I try very hard to make this and I think it can work. We have been together for 4 years. We were married in a ceremony, but we cannot sign the marriage papers yet because of social security. I'm sure many of you here have this problem.


In the past four years I have turned my life around. I got an associates and bachelor degree. I am now half way to my MBA with a 3.9gpa. I study very hard, because I feel my GPA is one way to guard against my faults. I had a job through a disability service that I stayed on for a year, before I had to quit because I wasn't good a advocate for myself against my suspicious boss. I did it for my health. 6 months later I got a "big boy" job that paid $40.000 a year in my field. However, I wasn't quick enough to make quota and quit to continue my school. I was willing to work through the breaks and stay late, but they wouldn't let me. I do very well in school, but I need to do good in the real world. I don't know if I have it in me.

I absolutely CANNOT do job interviews. I have read many books on them. I've even Analised the hidden meanings behind each question in my HR classes. However, I am a terrible speaker. Job interviews also require too much lying. It is part of a secret societal code that I don't understand. I don't understand why the answer to the question "Why do you want to work here?" is not "because I have bills to pay." Every job guide I have ever read says to be honest, but then gives a bunch of examples of ways you shouldn't be honest. It is confusing. The only way I can make it through a job interview is to play a character. I'm sad this is the way it has to be, but I would never get hired if I told the truth in a interview. I'm talking more about the "soft skill" questions like "Do you like to interact with other people?" Abandon all hope if you answer no on that question.


My wife cannot work because of her severe epilepsy. We make about $15,000 a year between the two of us in Social security, which is almost exactly what are fixed costs alone are. the only reason we can make it, is because of my students loan. Both of her parents are dead. I have no desire to ever move back in with my crazy mom and her terrible boyfriends of the month. I feel like I absolutely have to succeed and time is running out. Ever since losing my 40k a year job, I have been completely depressed, but still manage to go to school and make higher grades than 90 percent of the "business professionals" in my masters class who would turn me down from jobs. However, I have one more year of MBA classes. If I don't find a full time job by them, we are in bad shape.



Sorry for the long rambling post, but this is the way I think.

the "why do you want to work here?" question means, "why do you prefer this place to somewhere else?" answers may range from agreeing with the mission statement to them being a leader in their field to them being known for a good working environment. everyone already knows you need to pay your bills.

Hi cathylynn.


I understand the hidden meanings behind the question. However, many times the truth is I simply don't want to work there more than the other places. I am not that picky and am willing to do almost anything. I see work as something I have to do, not something I want to do. If I had my choice, I'd spend almost all day in my house. Therefore, I have to lie in the job interview. However, my problem is, I severely lack social skills. I'm not a good liar. I've read reports that being a good liar is a sign of success.


I fully understand how I am supposed to answer that question. However, it is completely different thing to actually do it, and many more similar questions in a 30 minute job interview. All in all, I manage to stay "on script" in an interview about 25% percent of the time. I figure that would give me better odds then going in there in saying, "I dont like working. I dont like people. Im not sociable. I probably won't like this job but am still willing to do it. I don't agree with a lot of what your company stands for but am still willing to work here...." etc. However, those statements are the truth. This is a problem with me. I see things in black in white. either something is the truth or it isnt. In my opinion, carefully phrasing things in order to be manipulative is lying. However, even the job interview guides which tell you to be honest expect you to do this. This is a skill I simply lack.

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