Navigating school with undiagnosed Asperger's

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Ok, so, I'm in ninth grade and my parents aren't home that much. ( I really don't blame them because thy are trying to make sure we are okay financially). I have been bullied in the past which made things worse. I have had an obsession with drawing my entire life, especially eyes for some odd reason. My parents are pushing to get me tested for giftedness and they don't think I show any signs of being an aspie.(. They have also hoped that I would be their perfect child.). I get good grades but I have a hard time connecting with people. Like, I sit alone at lunch because it's really loud and I can't handle dealing with trying to make eye contact with someone, listen to what they're saying, and tune out everything else. I do really well in language arts and am known for my extensive vocabulary. I also have a difficult time with non verbal communication and sarcasm. Like, my teacher will try to joke around and she's seen me not know how to act sometimes because I don't know if she's serious or not. Is there anything I can do on my own to make it better or how do I get help with it? Please share anything that has been helpful to you, I would appreciate it a lot.

These forums are what cleared up a lot of my confusion about life.
If I had found them sooner - if I had known about Autism (the whole spectrum - the fact that "Autism" had a spectrum... and so on...)

If I had been diagnosed younger, I might have found quite a bit of guidance and comfort here, and it might have improved quite a few situations in my past (school, parental interaction, siblings, expansion of interests, etc)...

Just reading and learning from other people who go through, and who (for many) are still learning the way the "average" person thinks is different from our own - and how! is probably the most insightful and important thing you can do. It turned out to be so for me.

If... if... if...

I am still not officially diagnosed myself, and may never be (shrinks don't want to deal with Autism in Adults around here), but (and you will go through a period of doubting. maybe two or three) I do not doubt anymore that this is where I will find my answers - and some comforts - wandering among the people on this forum. At the least, I have found here other people who share my questions, and (similar at least) experiences, confusions, desperations, bafflements, and so on....

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To be honest I don't know if I would have been ready to understand it back when I was in school. And I can't guarantee that I didn't need that time, those years of confusion to learn and develop and so on while not knowing... So maybe I got here when it was time.

But, well... from your post I take it you are asking yourself "if", but are not yet certain. And you may never have the "official" diagnosis - or maybe you will - but what I most vehemently suggest is becoming part of this group. You'll know whether you fit among us. Explore. Chat. Post. Respond. Take a break when that time comes (it seems to come to all of us, along with that "period of doubt") and come back. When it's time. When you want to know, to understand more. When you are ready.

And above all, Welcome.

Thank you for responding to me. I will definitely become more active here. I actually found this because I was Googling my symptoms and it seems as if others are able to relate to me.

Welcome to WrongPlanet !

I wish I had known of my Asperger's when your age.

I echo OddFiction's comments. I think it likely you can find helpful coping tools and techniques here. From reading yours posts it seems you have sufficient self-insight to gain much from just reading of other's experiences here, and otherwise participating in the discussions.