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my name is Jerry, I was diagnosed with aspergers about seven years ago. I've been wanting to become a member of this group for some time and am just now finally able to do so. looking forward to getting to know all of you. feel free to ask questions so you can get to know me better.

Good day, eh! Welcome to WP.

hi, jerry, what kinds of things are you interested in? glad you are now able to join us.

Hi.
Why were you not able to join before?

I am new to this forum and, I feel I must mention, I have never been diagnosed as an Aspie. I KNOW I have it however and it will be a matter of time before I get a diagnosis. However, it is great to "connect" with people who make me feel as if I may actually fit in or 'belong' somewhere. I have connected already (in heart and mind) with several who have posted here. Especially when one mentions they cannot walk comfortably without holding something in their hands, or they feel the need to emulate whomever they are around, or they cannot, regardless of their high IQ, keep a job. Speaking of walking....I was out today walking and had to cross a busy intersection where I might as well have been on a stage in the middle of central park with all of New York as an audience! It really hit me just how unusual it must be to anyone else who may hear me when I hum uncomfortably in those situations in order to keep myself calm and even keeled. Anyone else feel the need to hum in uncomfortable situations? It's not so bad till you're walking and 'out of the blue' a fellow pedestrian walks around a corner and hears your nervous, one to two octave humm LOL - anyway, I am rambling more this way than I do when I speak so maybe I need to cut this off here. It is good to be here - I feel like I just came home when I am on this site!

hi, EAGLEi.

Hi there Cathylyn

Oh sorry, cathylynn - I mispelled your name lol

a lot of different things I guess, mostly history, I'm usually interested in things having a historical nature. I'm 23, into music, movies, cars. I used to write. when I was younger I used to be into railroads and trains and such, I guess I still am, just got older and acquired more interests.

I used to be a member of a forum for people who owned Iroc Camaros, and was very active till my computer was no longer able to keep up. I've had an iphone for about the past year but forums and Iphones don't really mix. for a while I was looking for a community or support group for people with apergers and for the most part came up empty handed and had forgotten about it, but not so long ago I received a laptop as a gift from someone who no longer needed it. out of typical curiosity I googled "aspergers and nihilism" and a post from this forum came up, finally able to join I did, now we're here.

up until this time I've only met a few people who've also claimed to ave aspergers, but I didn't really see myself in any of them, and fair enough cause most N/T typical people don't see themselves in others either. so I'm looking forward to meeting other people with aspergers in order to better understand who I am.

I was tested for multiple things as a child, but I guess aspergers never met their tests. my mom always described me as colicky, saw about 20 therapists and none of them caught it. 7 years ago following a family dispute I was briefly institutionalized, on release I briefly had to see a parole officer whos nephew had aspergers. they recommended a therapist specializing in autism and aspergers and she was appalled that nobody had caught what she said was a classic textbook case.

it took me a little while to admit I had anything wrong with me, but once I did we we're able to work together and everyone noticed a difference. she taught me a lot a little things that are second nature to N/Ts and my family never noticed weren't to me. now for the most part I pass as N/T since I was able to learn typical social behavior. however I wasn't able to continue seeing that therapist because my family could not afford it, and even now I still cant afford it. so there are things I try to work on by myself.

I taught myself guitar. been playing for 9 years and most people would say I'm pretty good although I disagree, I still have much left to learn, kinda like learning to function by myself. difficult to explain. like I understand sarcasm very well, but sometimes people will talk and I will not understand them, I feel like i'm on the outside of an inside joke that is never explained to me. I'm also not very good at conversations, though good enough to convince most people there isn't anything wrong with me, which I take as a complement to all the hard work I've done to try and function in the world. however even some of my friends who've know me for a while think I'm just a little quirky, but that the aspergers thing is psychosomatic and all in my head. they just don't understand what the disorder is, and I assume the only people with aspergers they've met other than I have been very quirky.

I've much enjoyed speaking about this since I've basically kept it to myself for so long.
could any of you help me understand this forum? the last one I was a member of had a page of "active topics" which were topics that had recently had postings, in order from the latest post. is there anything like that on here? or a way to better help navigate other than a by topic basis?

There's the search thingie at the tip right of most pages.
New threads are at the right on the main page. http://www.wrongplanet.net
The Community Discussion Forum gives a list of sub-forums. http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html
The threads in the sub-forums are pretty much in order of most recent activity.
Is that what you're looking for?

pretty much, thank you

Welcome EAGLEi and liveandletjerry!

Yes, I also tend to hum in uncomfortable situations. But of course it´s really strange to do it in a restaurant full of people (who ususally are the reason why I feel uncomfortable). I try to stop it and to do something else when I recognize it because I know it seems strange to others.