Newly diagnosed at 42...feeling slightly overwhelmed!

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I've always known I was 'weird' but have finally got my diagnosis of aspergers. I'm a 42 year old Australian, mother of 2 teenage boys, one of whom is also currently being assessed and the other who I strongly suspect is but who doesn't want to know. It's quite a relief to finally have a name for what I am and a reason. I also am dyslexic which sucks, as it seems to cancel out some of the better aspergers traits like good memory!

I'm finding it a bit overwhelming though, now that it's all a reality! My mother seems to be in denial, she's not at all interested in finding out anything about it, and anything I say she dismisses with an "oh well I do that" or "well your sister sucked her thumb too so that's nothing" (sucking my thumb while twirling my hair was my calming thing until I was 12 when I was bribed and made to feel guilty to stop and I still miss doing it). It's very frustrating and saddening.

But anyway, wanted to say hello, not sure how much I'll be posting as it's all a lot of conversation, but I'll try

Hello, welcome!
oh, my mother was like that too in the beginning, everytime I tried to explain something of aspergers she said: but everyone does it! etc. And "aspergers" became like "you-know-what". I imagine it must be tons harder for you as you got your diagnosis so much older! For me it got better later as she admited she always knew there was something about me

Thanks

I'm reading Aspergirls at the moment and the author mentioned that sometimes mothers of older diagnoses can feel guilty for not having seen it and can act a bit strange, so I'm wondering if that's it. Considering my traits have always driven her insane, now they're official they become nothing! lol Hopefully she'll come round like your mother did, it would be nice to have someone to talk to about all of this with.

that is a good explanation, they may feel guilty like they didn't know their daughters.
it is very good you are reading Aspergirls. I didn't like it that much but it is one of the best available! May I also suggest some other books? Everyone says 22 things a woman with aspergers syndrome wants her partner to know is even better, and my personal favorite is women from another planet. Also aspienwoman is going to be released in a few months and it seems like it is an awesome book. For a broader view the complete guide to aspergers syndrome.
hope you like to read !

Wellcome.
Even though Tony Attwoods books deal mostly with boys, they are very good to read, and he does write about girls too.
The one, that explains Aspergers to parents and professionals is very good to start with. Then you could read his "Complete guide to asperger syndrome".

Nice, I'll definitely look those up, I've ordered Tony Attwood's Complete Guide already. Books are one of my obsessions so I'll be onto those!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome! I found out I'm autistic a little over two years ago. I've gone through a lot of changes and adjustments. Good luck!