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I figured out i have this asperger syndrome about a month ago through a teachers conference meeting for my 7 year old son. Is it A.D.D no i would tell the teacher its something worse and what ever is wrong with my son i have it to, because i was just like him. And then she told me about Aspergers, whats that, i have never heard of this you should look it up she said,,and now i know .I am a 40 year old single male and all my life i knew i was different, their was something not right with me (my ex told me before she through me on the street) education,employment,relationships, has just been terrible. For the longest time i thought i was the only one and this was what all normal people feel like and go through. Until my youngest of 2 sons got to the age of 4 or so and people and his mother began to notice something different about him. Oh no, i thought he has what ever i have and he will have a lonely sad cursed life and i have no idea on how to help him because i have no clue on how to help my self. Well since i have learned about me having this syndrome i have been mostly angry because my life has been ruined by it and it took this long for some one to figure it out, if only i had known so long ago, just maybe i could of gotten some help and avoided or handled things better,school,jobs,relationships, before the damage was done.

I really feel like me and my son are on our own with it and that just makes me feel more isolated and lonely then before i knew i had it.

Welcome to WrongPlanet Onleyme!

Well you have found a good place to share your experiences and you will see that you are far from being alone

Also a lot of people find out about it later in life, just like you, often even older, because not much was known about it when you were younger. Maybe some people can give you good advices or just share opinions etc. If you feel like it go to the general discussion and read our posts and/or post there.

Again welcome and I glad that you joined WP (best website in my opinion).

Welcome to WP

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

You and your life sounds almost like an echo of mine. no matter how hard I tried I could never really make friends or seem to do anything social right. finely had a son, he is 8 now and I am nearly 52. yes I am lonely for a mate, but my life as been so much richer and fuller since he came along into my world.

Welcome to Wrongplanet.

Welcome!

You certainly are not alone in having this condition, as millions have it worldwide. But you also are still your own unique self, just like any NT is.

An amazing amount of people get dealt a bad hand in life, from being born into a poor country to being born into an abusive family, to being born with a physical or mental disability, of which ASD is just one.

The cards are as they are, and the only difference is what you make of it.

Hi Onleyme.

I'm new here myself having just discovered yesterday and purely by accident, that I have almost all of the symptoms of Asperger's. Quite a revelation coming at my age (51).

Now that I'm a mature adult, many of the problems I had as a child and adolescent have pretty much disappeared and my ability to socialise has improved greatly since early adulthood.

Your son being diagnosed so early in life will help. There's a lot of info on the internet about treatments, though I haven't had time to read much of it yet (see my 2nd line).

My life hasn't been so bad really. I think having a keen interest in Natural History together with enjoying the outdoors (walking and exploring new places) has always been a big help. Though I do still have a need to socialise, it means I can also be happy alone.

Hi Onleyme. As the others have said, you are certainly not alone, but I do understand your feeling that way. I feel that way too. I'm very lonely for real friends. People who share my interests but for whatever reason, I'm just not successful making friends. In the last year, I took up golf because a "friend" played. The game is alright, even a little fun, but I really just did it to spend time with this person. After a while I realized that we only ever did what she wanted to do and when she wanted to do it, never anything I was interested in. She never included me in her inner circle, she really only kept me around because I was a big help to her at work. Now she's moving away and I feel hurt and sad.

Your son may be an avenue for you to meet people if you really want to. The few fleeting friendships I've had have come from my kid's school, but my youngest is now an aspie in high school and neither of us are faring very well on the friend front.