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Here I am. I'm a 36 year old, married family man with four sons, a mortgage, a commute, and a career. Sounds like most other guys, except I'm not. I am convinced I have Asperger's. ("Who diagnosed you?", says half the crowd.) I did. ("Guffaw! You're not one of us, newcomer.") Well, I believe I am. 50% of my kids have been diagnosed with Asperger's, which those of us who pay attention know was only classified in the mid-90's, when I was already nearly an adult. Prior to that, the school counselors' comments were always just "Very bright, unusual focus on things he's interested in, difficulty remaking on task during class." And of course all the adults during that time reacted with, "You can focus on X, why can't you just do what you're supposed to do and focus on Y? You're just lazy."

ANYHOO.

Never thought I'd be posting here, but I am and am looking forward to some insight I can gain from this community. I tend to view Asperger's as a blessing, not a gift, but one that must be carefully managed in order to blend in with society because most folks don't understand it. My first son seems to be sightly affected with AS and depression, but less so than I. My third, well he's pretty close to the character "Max" on Parenthood. An absolutely brilliant child but 100% typical Aspie in every way.

I am having difficulty with relationships and managing stress and change, I live in the very crowded Southern California area mostly out of choice but also because I feel that family dynamics require it. i'm not native to this area and I feel I will never fit in. I am looking for other adults in my situation with AS and hoping to learn strategies which help them cope with the stresses of adult life and to remain successful. I have browsed a little bit through the forum before, but would appreciate any direction or pointers that members might send my way as they pertain to subfora or threads that could be beneficial. Much appreciated!

Best,
mc2004

from one self-diagnosed aspie to another, welcome. i don't have kids, but when my nephew was diagnosed, i read about AS and found myself described.

hiya MC welcome to the club I have a question for you, por favor- would you say you had equal parts some flavor of ADHD in addition to AS?

I'm also in SoCal! Hello. Erm, I don't feel like I fit in much here, at least yet. I have met two other "aspies" who feel the same. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong, unfortunately. I despise change. What kind of change are you having issues with? As far as relationships go, what kind of problems are you having?

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