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Hi everyone,

I'm new to the forums so I thought I should introduce myself.

I'm a 38 year old married woman from northern BC, Canada. I myself do not have an Aspergers diagnosis, though I do have a lot of the symptoms and all of the online tests come up with results that say that it's highly likely. I was, however, just diagnosed with ADHD last week, which shares quite a few symptoms with Aspergers.

I am, however, married to a guy with Aspergers, and to top it off, he refuses to acknowledge it. I don't know how "official" the diagnosis is... when he was a kid (aka way before we ever met) he was put through partial testing for it but refused to go any further, so he probably didn't get fully diagnosed. But his mom, his best friend, and I all agree that there's no way he could possibly NOT have it. I've had him take the online quizzes and he scores so high he's almost off the charts, but he still absolutely refuses to even consider that he has Aspergers (and now I get the "there's no such thing as Aspergers anymore"... sometimes. Sometimes he just curses me out instead.) And he self medicates with alcohol. So I get the infinitely frustrating task of attempting to convince him that sometimes his behaviour isn't acceptable or normal (when he thinks it is), and perform
damage control on various things. Obviously I'm not on his case constantly, but on occasion he'll do things that are just so far out in left field that I know someone else is going to react badly to it.

It's mostly this last thing that has brought me to the forums - basically learning how to cope with someone who is very obviously Aspie but refuses to do anything about it himself, and seems to want the world to bend to suit him. So, hi!

(Before anyone goes there... despite his quirks, I love my hubby dearly, and we work extremely well together. I'm certainly not perfect either and part of the reason we work well together is that we balance each other out and can cope with each other's weirdnesses.

Hey ravnsdaughter welcome.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

welcome to the club.

I hope you are able to help your husband. I have Aspergers and based on what my mom tells me (now after all these years) my dad was problably an aspie too.
My parents go divourced when I was 4 years old because my dad was an alcohalic and he started hitting her. He was a pretty successful businessman, but he was not real great socially and he used alcohal as you say to seel medicate.
My wife is very supportive and I think we were made for each other. But lately I have fallen into a pit of anxiety and I could definitely see how it would be easy just to drink to forget how bad you feel about yourself.

Good luck

Hello and welcome to the WrongPlanet.