Hi there, I am new here and to forums at all

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I just randomly found this website and I thought I would join. Our oldest has Asperger's and we are constantly struggling with the fact that we told his school he had it. He is so high functioning and now....they think he is slow and made us hire a full time para (out of pocket) since it is a private school.

Anyway, that is my story. I will check out the other forums....thanks for having this site.

welcome to wrong planet!
i'm confused, do you think that the school your son is going to is right about them thinking he is slow?
anyway, hope you enjoy the stay and feel free to post!

Welcome. I consider this site my "hell's Reprieve". This is where I take a break from "out there". I'm glad you found us. I am single. I live alone. I'm unemployable. Other than here, I am truely alone. Well, me and my dog and cat, anyway.

Hey there, mama. Your story sounds much like mine, except for the fear of water. Both my kids are on the spectrum and my husband dx'ed me first. I always suspected traits, but he pointed out ALL of the signs to me. Being hopelessly logical, it was very hard to deny it. Now I'm an offical alien and it feels wonderful.

Try the Dino Aspie thread in this forum if you are over 40 or at least feel that way. We ruminate on the old days of growing up clueless.

No, I don't think they are right, he actually is super bright, fun, and funny. He is VERY high functioning and most people don't even know he has Asperger's.

We think a lot of his Asperger's is from us not living in a neighborhood with ANY children and no cousins his age either.

He is funny, athletic, witty, friendly, and just all around boy-boy. They just are so scared of Asperger's and really don't know anything about it so, we think their fear of the un-known is really hindering their view of our son.

We strongly believe this is the right school for our son, he loves it, has lots of friends there and biggest thing is, it is K-8th grade which for those of you that know...is great for kids with Asperger's. Our local public school...they make them change schools every 3 years and that I think is way to much undo stress for us and for him.

They think our child is wild and unruly sometimes and yet, we really haven't seen him do anything more (or less) than any other 5-6 year old boy in Kindergarten all day! We think we screwed up in telling them about Asperger's at all and they would have just chalked him up as being a little boy that gets ants in his pants occassionally instead of a little guy that needs constant supervision just to fit in.

You need to disabuse yourself of that idea. It is a neurological difference if he was dx'ed appropriately. You can take a chld from a foreign culture and put them into kindergarten and within 6 months he will be speaking a new language and acting very much like his peers. Unless you had locked him in a closet from birth to kindergarten, he would turn out "normal" when placed in a social situation. Even introverted, shy kids understand state of mind.

Oh I agree he was born with Asperger's. I am just saying I think us living in a neighborhood with no other children around hasn't helped him socially at all.

My husband and I think I have Asperger's too and I grew up in the same type of neighborhood and I so remember just sitting alone a lot of the time growing up.

That is why we have made an effort to make sure he is on sports teams, has church groups, playdates, etc.

He doesn't have a lot of friends but, the couple he has have been friends of his now for 2-3 years and that is pretty great. I think over time, he will make more and more friends and pretty soon, there won't be much of a difference socially between him and the other children.

He is very good at sports and always willing to try new activities. So, that helps.

It will be an exciting, interesting, tough, hard, and frustrating journey with him but, I couldn't think of a greater little guy to go through this with.

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

Using a computer is not hard at all. You just have to put your mind to it and you'll get it, I'm sure!

I hope you enjoy posing here!

Hmm, I heard they were going to make one of those, but they must have made it only viewable if you are 40+, since I can't find it anywhere. Although I can see the women's forum and I'm male, and I can see the adolescent forum and I'm way over that one. Age = 38, by the way. (close to 40)

It is a thread in the Getting to know each other forum.

They are just covering their legal exposure at your expense. One thing at a time, so you are one of us, well come out and play, lots of kids your age here, and once you are having fun we will gang up on those school people.

38 is young for the Dino Cafe. You were a child, women are a related species, but there is only one way to know age. You should keep the illusion of mature years, something to comfort you while you still have hope.

LOL, realising we are now completely off-topic now, but pressing on...
I think kids make you feel old; I have none, and neither do my older sister or brother, nor any of my close friends (until recently). Thus I have never been around them much to feel like a parent or an uncle.

I have, since I was 15 or so, felt and acted (or so I am told) like I was 25. I still feel that way, or maybe up to 28 now. No one ever told me you always feel the way you did in high school, like wants, and interests, and cars, and things. The only things that have really changed are my patience (I have more now) and my social skills have slowly improved, so I am about as adept at it now as the average 22-year old NT.

You have been fairly warned, knowing the future can be good or bad. The choice is yours.