welcome! I think that's really admirable, getting your diagnosis & using it to relate to your grandkids. Since getting mine, I've started seeing certain things in my nieces & nephews (one in particular), but so far, they seem quite happy, & their parents haven't felt the need to test them. But I suspect that I inherited my ASD from my grandfather... and only learned about mine (and his very ASD qualities) after his death. I wish I'd been able to talk to him more! for those of us on the "wrong planet," it's great when we can connect to someone else in our family & feel a little less alone.
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"I often wonder if I should have been born at another time. My senses are unusually, some might say unnaturally keen, and ours is an era of distraction. It's a punishing drumbeat of constant input. It follows us into our homes and into our beds. It seeps into our... Into our souls, for want of a better word. [...] In my less productive moments, I'm given to wonder.... If I had just been born when it was a little quieter out there, [...] Might I have been more focused? A more fully realized person?"
-Sherlock, in Elementary ("The Marchioness")