Hi I'm a newby and mommy to a boy diagnosed with Aspergers.

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Hi. I just wanted to introduce myself as I've just joined up this evening.

I stumbled on this site by complete accident but am very glad I did.

My story :

I am a single mommy to two beautiful and amazing children. We live in the UK. My eldest, my boy of 13 was diagnosed at the beginning of the year with High Functioning ASD/Aspergers. I had been trying to get some help and support for him since he was around 2 years old. You see, as I'm sure most mothers would say the same I know my boy better than anyone and I knew something wasn't quite right with him. I didn't know what, I just knew it was something. He's seen various professionals over the years but no one would help. I'd get all the same answers like he's just a typical boy, or he'll grow out of it. He never did, he just got worse. One night when he was 11 I heard him in bed sobbing his little heart out. I brought him downstairs and asked him what was wrong, why was he crying but he just kept saying he didn't know. He never talks about his feelings and I've since found out that that's because he is a selective mute. Something at that time I knew nothing about. Anyway, that night I sat up with him all night long and the sobbing just didn't stop and he didn't seem to know why he was crying. The next day I went to my doctors and told them I had had enough of being shunned and that I wasn't leaving surgery until something was done to help. She told me to go home, write down all of my concerns with him and go back the next day. I did, equipped with 14 a4 pages filled with the concerns I had, well at least all of those I could remember over the past 11 years. At that point, the doctor said, yes, you definitely need a referral. And that's when the ball got rolling. It took them nearly two years to diagnose but now he is 13. He's a very tall strong boy with increasing anger issues as well as everything else that goes with having Aspergers. I can't physically control him anymore and the anger management classes I've been asking for since he was 5 years old still haven't happened. We have schooling issues and so many more I would be here forever writing them all down. Anyway, life can some days be a living hell here and I am struggling to get support from people who have been in the same situation. Hence why I am here. I am hopeful that I will get to know lots of people that may be able to offer me some solutions and even just to talk about our day to day difficulties to help me, him and my daughter deal with it and grow together as a happy family.

I am sorry for rambling on so much, I'm just so lost at the moment for where to go or what to do next to get my beautiful boy the happy fulfilled life he truly deserves and to improve family life all round.

Hey Kimmi welcome.

Hi, Kimmi, welcome to WP

I hope you can find some advice here. I'd recommend trying the General Autism Discussion and the Parents Discussion

Hi Kimmi,

He sounds similar to me when I was his age, although I am female. Confusion, anger, depression, anxiety- all things I experienced during those years. Like him, I would be up at night just crying to myself. He is depressed because he can feel that he is out of place and frustrated that he is not able to really connect with other. Sometimes I can be selectively mute as well and actually prefer being that way because it brings me a sense of peace. People have thought that I was bipolar over the years, which is probably correct and a co-morbid trait of ASD, but I only began changing when I began researching ways to help myself.

The only thing that really helped me with my moods, anger, depression were b12 injections (hydroxocobalamin), cutting out all gluten and sugar, taking vitamins and lots and lots of rest. This may be hard for him since he is still an adolescent, but trust me I did a complete 180 from where I used to be with only implementing these changes. Of course, it took some time, but I feel like the b12 should take a couple weeks to see the full effects. I recommend researching b12 and autism to see how it can help. I would actually recommend it regardless of autism because it is an essential vitamin for everyone to have anyways. After the b12, my anger dropped from a 9 to a 2. He probably needs an aggressive treatment with it to really see results though.

These are just my two cents. Hope this helps you.

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