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Hello all.

I was actually reading Cracked and one article mentioned that autism distinguishes itself in females differently than males, which lead to an investigation on the signs of Asperger's in females, as well as some posts by individuals explaining their experiences with (AS).

This lead me to an emotional and somewhat revelatory moment where felt like I finally knew why I am the way that I am. I am planning on an official diagnosis of what it really is that I have, but for the moment I feel my conclusions are not in error.

So why am I here? I'm just looking for some connections, really. Seeing if this community will help with my feelings of isolation. I don't have a lot of social outlets, I'm terrible at making friends due to my interests (or maybe it's more about how I explain or display my interests).

Hey Gamine welcome.

hi, gamine. welcome. what sorts of things interest you?

I'm a big fan of reading. I do a lot of information collecting on things like current events, moral issues like drug politics or gender rights (I consider myself androgyne, so it's something in particular I spend a lot of time delving into).

I love video games, primarily one player. Expansive universe types and others with strong stories.

I do a lot of drawing, too, but only as a hobby.

i'm a current events junkie myself. you might try the charlie rose quiz if the week. it comes out most fridays. i often get 80%. when i get 100%, i share it to facebook

Thanks, I actually hadn't heard of the Charlie Rose quiz, and had to look it up. Not a bad way to solidify news in your memory by retesting, though, thanks. ^^

Welcome to WP

I think you said that you have trouble relating to people when you talk about your interests. Forgive me if this sounds goofy, but a person who likes reading and talking about current events and moral issues, it sounds like you must be very smart, and probably initimidating to people who are not into those areas. It is a very good thing that you like thinking about those things and educating yourselves. But a lot of us are either too busy to take a lot of interest in those areas, or intimidated by the complexity of the issues and the emotions involved, or maybe in my case too lazy. But I think it is great that you apply your mind in those areas.

I am an Aspie, as well as my son (12) and daughter (16)

My wife is neurotypical

We were talking to my daughter last night and I hope I said the right thing to her. She was talking about a speech assignment at school and one of the students was talking about police violence against minorities. The discussion was pretty one sided. Our school is so diverse that there are no majority, all are minorities, but Dark skinned people are the larges group. We are very much light skinned (sorry not sure what the pc terms are now days)
We live in that neighborhood because we did not want to give into white flight. We want our kids to be open minded.

But some times being an Aspie can mean very strict adherence to rules because after all rules are great and non emotional and can help us maneuver thru a world we dont understand socially or emotionally. The person giving the speech was apparently using more motional appeals than logic and exagerating her point of view. This confused and upset my daughter, who does not have a great filter, but luckily she kept her mouth shut.

This is the part I hope I did not do wrong. I told her that she needed to use caution in dealing with complex, emotionally charged issues like racism, sexual orientation, politics and religion. Especially in our neighborhood, you have to be careful. Even if none of the people in your conversation are of the group you are discussing, they might have strong connections or someone might be listening in.

One other thing you mentioned in your OP is that females have different wasy of showing their Aspergers than men (dont we all)
I read that females are under diagnosed because of the way that society tells them to be (meek, mild, girlish)
I think I am more in touch with my sensitive side because I was raised by a single mother.

I have a lot of trouble identifying with people because I can become highly impassioned about issues of inequality. My degrees are in Sociology and Psychology, so I tend to be research-oriented and logical rather than emotional about how I come at issues, but that doesn't mean I don't get easily upset when I feel like I'm being attacked for my opinion (I'm too quick to think critique equals attack).

As an example let’s say the debate on the legality of prostitution. It’s a trigger word that people have a lot of emotional reserve in. Most people may just believe it’s morally wrong and therefore not even something to engage in a debate over. However, there are many practical and legal justifications for allowing prostitution to be legal. I usually side with practicality and logical rationalization and can never agree to ‘it just feels wrong’, because that’s always too subjective.



Did your daughter have commentary that could have been illuminating for the discussion? It’s hard to say what’s right or wrong in that particular instance. Sometimes it’s best to stay quiet, but sometimes a more neutral or logical opinion can be enlightening, it provides a point of view not many others may have thought of yet. The good thing is, in college you don’t have to worry about being called out for your opinion, even if it is divergent. I mean, you still won’t be popular (or maybe you will, I just wasn’t lucky), but at least it’s nice to let others know where you stand.



I didn't mean to imply that being female meant I had a more unique way of expressing my Aspie syndrome, I hope it didn't sound insulting, since I know symptoms and signs are varied for everyone. But there have been some new information that has come to light in the last few years of research that yes, there are probably a great deal of undiagnosed females with AS because of the way that it presents itself in females and how they react to differing social situations compared to their male AS counterparts.

In any case, I appreciate the welcome, sorry for the long-winded reply!

One thing I forgot to ask about (I am long winded too) is vidoe games

You said "I love video games, primarily one player. Expansive universe types and others with strong stories. "

Can you give some examples?

I like pokemon, dragonquest, and my favorite computer games is the original Sid Meiers revolution ( I also like Civ on the DS)
I am kind of limited in video games in time, money, and technical expertise. I dont like playing video games on my computer because it seems like every time I load a big game my computer crashes.

Examples... The first that comes to mind that fits both expansive and story-oriented is Dragon Age: Inquisition. I played the other two but it really set the bar for large, explorable words and interesting, well-developed characters. I like Bioware's other property, Mass Effect as well.

But I'm a huge gamer so I'll list a few favourites: Dragon's Dogma, Silent Hill 2, SOMA, Xenoblade, Elder Scrolls series, Fire Emblem, Alien Isolation (Ok, this was less story and more just survival horror), Ace Attorney trilogy, to name a few.

I did play Civilization but not on the DS (I don't play on my computer either my graphics card is too outdated), I love Pokemon as well, just finished Omega Ruby last year, caught (or traded) every one! I've only played Dragon Quest VII on the PS2, but I liked it pretty well, and there's one coming out on the PS4, actually Dragon Quest X I'm looking forward to.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Thanks, Anonymous.

Make yourself at home here.

Thanks, I appreciate it, Cadet. ^^