Where the $%$#^% do I begin?

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Hi,

I feel like this is an AA meeting or something. Hi, I'm ________ and I have Aspergers.

I've suspected it for quite some time, but now it has really hit me. When I was 4 or 5 I was diagnosed with ADD, but as time has gone on, I know it is much much more than that. I have always felt like I can never fit in with people, unless they have the same interests as me. It is hard being a part of the prim, perfect adult world of dinner parties and social climbing yuppies, when all I want to do is sit at home and watch reruns of game shows from the 70s or mess with my extensive collection of action figures.

Now, at age 37, married with a wonderful sweet little girl, who is autistic as well, things have come to a head. My wife is NT, I am not. For the last 12 years of marriage we have been pretending everything was ok. I guess they are not.

I am happy with my life, don't get me wrong, but it is a constant struggle, which leaves me exhausted at the end of every day. I work in a very outgoing, social environment in a job I love, but still it is a struggle.

I guess that's all pretty heavy, but I don't know what else to say. I'm hoping to get some more insight through everyones experiences. Thanks for listening!

Yes, it is kind of like an AA meeting but you get to write instead of talk and you don't have to look at anybody. Which for me is perfect. Glad you have a job you love, that's a positive even if it is exhausting. So what changed in your marriage that you think it's not ok? As someone who has been married for 41 years, I can tell you that like with everything in life, marriage has its ups and downs. Welcome to the "meeting"

all of us started with the first post.

welcome to the club.

My wife told me I was not "touchy feely' enough and that she doesn't know if she can continue like that. She thought it was something wrong with her, but she came to an epiphany that my AS symptoms are probably behind my perceived "coldness." She says our marriage is like living with a best friend, and not a husband.

Hey ActionMan welcome.

Welcome! Hope you get the insight you need.