Provolone_Wolf wrote:
Hello there. Not sure where to begin.
I have a eight year-old Aspie son, and sometimes... I have a really hard time being kind to him.
Sometimes it feels like he's tearing my family apart.
I don't know what else to say. I guess I just want to know that this comes with the territory.
Frustration is common. My name is Simon. My father once beat me in front of my grandmother (maternal side) to the face. He also once made me breakfast, woke me up (in the gentlest way possible) at the age of 11-14 and I was very happy that day. Because I try very hard to make my father proud, because my dad is a strong man.
He did not tell me he put tranquilizers (90's style psych care) in to my breakfast. He did not tell medical staff at school.
When he come home and saw what he had done to me, he broke down and cried. My father has never cried before, or might not have since. I have been the only one that made my dad cry because he was trying too hard and failing, but all he knew was what he had been told. Because nobody told him, and he was trying to find a path, he kept fighting. But to him fighting meant... hitting.
My father never used drugs ever again after he saw me that day in school. He then went so far as to become anti-drugs and that they are all poison. It was too big a swing.
You are being a good father by asking even this question. Because my father still won't talk to me.
I hope the story of my life helps you. I am very happy to share more if it helps, but I do not want to overstep my boundaries. I just need to be told where the boundaries are.
Thank you.
06 Jan 2017, 11:31 am
