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16 Jan 2020, 6:29 pm

Hello everyone.

I don’t even know where to start. My whole life I’ve tried to figure out why I’m different. I’ve been bullied, made fun of, and I could never figure out why. Especially when I’ve always been as nice as I could possibly be to everyone I meet. In school, I found out early that being smart and getting praise from teachers put a gigantic bullseye on me for my tormentors. So, I purposely dumbed myself down and became an average student. I’ve always struggled making friends. Every relationship (except for my marriage) has ended with me being told I’m like a robot. I just don’t get other people’s emotions. I prefer to get lost in my thoughts so it makes others think I’m ignoring them. I love to spend time alone watching videos on astronomy and physics. I spell words backwards in my head. I’m constantly looking for 10 letter words. Collared shirts, ties, or tags in my tshirts are unbearable. We have a remote control for our tv that I can’t touch because of the texture. I could go on, but I’m sure you all get the idea. I’m reluctant to post this without an official diagnosis, but I’m certain that I’m an Aspie. Anyway, I hope to interact with many of you and learn more about myself in the process.



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16 Jan 2020, 7:42 pm

Chat away and welcome to Wrong Planet.


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16 Jan 2020, 7:59 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet. Many on this website are self-diagnosed. Let us know how we can help.


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16 Jan 2020, 9:40 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet. Sounds like your in the right place :).


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16 Jan 2020, 10:17 pm

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17 Jan 2020, 2:16 pm

Hi and a very warm welcome to you Joseph :). So sorry to hear yet another difficult story of just how harsh school life and life in general can be for those who appear "different" in some way. Also, that relationships have ended with you being told you are robot-like ... does a good heart not count for anything? Hope you find better friendship and understanding here. Good to have you with us.



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17 Jan 2020, 5:06 pm

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18 Jan 2020, 8:00 am

Sounds very normal to me. :)
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23 Jan 2020, 9:29 pm

JosephLB wrote:
Hello everyone.

I don’t even know where to start. My whole life I’ve tried to figure out why I’m different. I’ve been bullied, made fun of, and I could never figure out why. Especially when I’ve always been as nice as I could possibly be to everyone I meet. In school, I found out early that being smart and getting praise from teachers put a gigantic bullseye on me for my tormentors. So, I purposely dumbed myself down and became an average student. I’ve always struggled making friends. Every relationship (except for my marriage) has ended with me being told I’m like a robot. I just don’t get other people’s emotions. I prefer to get lost in my thoughts so it makes others think I’m ignoring them. I love to spend time alone watching videos on astronomy and physics. I spell words backwards in my head. I’m constantly looking for 10 letter words. Collared shirts, ties, or tags in my tshirts are unbearable. We have a remote control for our tv that I can’t touch because of the texture. I could go on, but I’m sure you all get the idea. I’m reluctant to post this without an official diagnosis, but I’m certain that I’m an Aspie. Anyway, I hope to interact with many of you and learn more about myself in the process.

Welcome to this forum. It's fine to post here. Just refer to yourself as "self-diagnosed" if you don't have an official diagnosis.

I'm horrified to hear about how you felt compelled to dumb yourself down. In my opinion, we need, if at all possible, to excel at something, to compensate for our social disadvantages, if we are to have any hope of finding a decent job.

It's great that you've managed to get married and (for however long it's been) stay married. I wish you the best of luck in keeping your marriage going strong. Perhaps you might be able to give some useful advice to some of the guys here in the Love and Dating sub-forum?


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