23 Feb 2021, 7:52 pm
My bf who is in his early 30s was just diagnosed with autism. Explains a lot. I just joined here so I can learn as much as I can. For some reason he isn't as interested in learning about it as I am. He seems to feel relieved when he makes connections between things he has struggled with and autism "i.e. Oh, so THAT'S why I find x so difficult!" But he doesn't really go out of his way to learn more. Anyways just wanted to say hi 
23 Feb 2021, 8:08 pm
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23 Feb 2021, 9:24 pm
Welcome to WP!
I was diagnosed at age 64 and found it more interesting than my bride did. We'd been married 19 years at that time and neither one of us saw much reason to change anything because of the diagnosis. However, now when she bumps up against one of my Aspie quirks she gets to hear me say "I have a doctor's note for that!". (I find that more entertaining than she does. 
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The general wisdom is that if you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie. We're all different. So you'll have to figure out his personal quirks.
If I had to guess I would recommend: Sometimes he will need to be left alone--it doesn't mean he's mad at you, he just needs to recharge his batteries. He probably doesn't like to multitask, so let him do one thing at a time (no detailed conversations while he's driving, for instance). He's not good at reading between the lines and doesn't tend to have hidden meanings, so keep conversations straight-forward. And, if marriage follows, he'll likely be very faithful, somewhat annoying (that's a husband thing, not just an Aspie thing), and a good candidate for boring detailed things like organizing the tax records.
Good luck! I think the two of you are lucky to have each other.
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25 Feb 2021, 10:08 am
Welcome to WPea! 
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Welcome to Wrong Planet!
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I was diagnosed at age 64 and found it more interesting than my bride did. We'd been married 19 years at that time and neither one of us saw much reason to change anything because of the diagnosis. However, now when she bumps up against one of my Aspie quirks she gets to hear me say "I have a doctor's note for that!". (I find that more entertaining than she does.
)The general wisdom is that if you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie. We're all different. So you'll have to figure out his personal quirks.
If I had to guess I would recommend: Sometimes he will need to be left alone--it doesn't mean he's mad at you, he just needs to recharge his batteries. He probably doesn't like to multitask, so let him do one thing at a time (no detailed conversations while he's driving, for instance). He's not good at reading between the lines and doesn't tend to have hidden meanings, so keep conversations straight-forward. And, if marriage follows, he'll likely be very faithful, somewhat annoying (that's a husband thing, not just an Aspie thing), and a good candidate for boring detailed things like organizing the tax records.
Good luck! I think the two of you are lucky to have each other.
This, too, is a good synopsis. Agree with all.
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