"WELL... NOW WHAT?"

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I'll leave my real name out of this, for the time being...

My wife of almost-16 years was the first one to suspect all this. Even when I'm in close physical proximity to her, I'm "far, far away." I can share feelings with most everyone, but her. I can talk about sex with most anyone, but her. I can enjoy online conversations with people about damn near any subject... but she needs to pry me open like a giant clam sometimes, just to get a word or two out of me. Born an only child, parents that are even more cold and unfeeling and indifferent than I am (especially to each other). Multiple incidents of sexual abuse at age 8 (perps were some kids that lived across the street).

After dealing with the repercusssions of my childhood sexual abuse... my sexual addiction(s)... my ongoing depression (which I've only recently addressed--I'm on my 10th and last month of Wellbutrin XL 150mg)... she kinda steered me over to this online test. Y'all have probably all heard about, or even taken the ol' Aspie-Quiz. My wife is a middle school teacher, by the way... just finished her Master's degree, achieved national board certification a few years back. She has two younger siblings, has cared for cousins and other children much of her life, so yeah, she knows a bit about child development, and all those alphabet afflictions that are tossed around nowadays (ADD, ADHD, etc.)

So, I took the Aspie-Quiz last night, here in my office, when I was the last one here. Scored 128.

The tears flowed, of course. I think it was partly out of fear, and partly out of relief, kinda getting some validation that it's not all my fault.

So, now what? I've taken this quiz, it says:

Your Aspie score: 128 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 84 of 200

You are very likely an Aspie

How do I approach this with my doctor, if at all? Do I want this in my medical files (the big ones they never, ever let you see, even though it's all about you)? Is there even a need to make this some sort of "official diagnosis?"

I guess I could use a road map. Or a finger (no, not that one! ) pointing me to "go that-a-way!"

Thanks...

--Gojira

P.S. Also, great web site, but is there a FAQ someplace that explains all the curious little jargons and acronyms, like "NT" and so forth?

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NT = neurotypical ie someone who does not think autistically


(I beat Tim Tex! go me!)

Hello and welcome to our world! Keep looking and I know you'll find the answers here. There is an FAQ in the Wrongplanet.net Forum (almost at the bottom of the forums list). I found that it was easier just to ask about things like acronyms. "NT" means neurotypical, by the way. So far no one has egged me or anything. It's a fairly friendly bunch of people that you will find here.

Oops... left out one thing...

After fighting infertility for 10 years, we finally had a daughter. A "natural miracle." She's 2.5 now, and my biggest fear is that she'll be Aspie, as well. No offense, I just want her to be "perfect" (and yes, I know that's unrealistic).

--G

I have 4 children, my 16 and 13 year old sons were diagnosed with AS in February this year. My 14 year old son is Neurotypical and my 6 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and will be assessed for AS soon (I hope). It is how I found out about me.
I wouldn't change any of them for the world. And if your daughter does start showing signs of it, she is young and can be helped in so many ways that we weren't. And she will still be perfect to you.

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Tim

Welcome,

Just hang out and be yourself.

My mother was surpose to be infertile...but then she magically got pregnant with me. She had the same worry, but I turned out ok. Infact I think I turned out better than I would have been if I was NT. Don't worry, even if your daughter does have AS, it wont be the most depressing thing in the world.

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